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This is my first post in this area. I used to post in General Questions II, but that was some time ago. I spent a lot of time keeping as busy as I could and that helped a lot.
Now I am less than 2weeks away from the final court date. It's moving very fast. I am trying to date and see that there are some nice people out there, but I just think I need more healing.
I still miss my W a lot. Not the person she is, but the person the was. But I'm hanging in there. Things are getting better and I am ready to move on to this next chapter of my life.
<small>[ October 15, 2002, 11:26 AM: Message edited by: StillCan'tBelieveIt ]</small>
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Joined: Sep 2001
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I'll start with song lyrics that helped me alot
"but lately I'm beginning to find that when I drive myself my light is found" - Incubus
Yup, divorce sucks, no doubt about it. My divorce wil finalize in about 3 weeks. I met someone on match.com that seems really nice though. I, like you, love what my XW was, not who she has become......totally emotionally unavailable. We talked, she said maybe a reconcilatioon "years from now" what the F does that mean? Like I'm supposed to sit around for years while she screws whoever, then I'm supposed to take her back?? Whatever!
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SCBI you are right about needing more healing. It would be a great mistake for you to fall in love so soon after the divorce.
I met my fiancee a year after my divorce but did not have any desire to start a serious R with her when we met. I wanted to find out MORE about who this person was before I even risked my heart and those of my D's by formalizing a R. I wanted to first respect the person's character and find what she valued in life by seeing her interact with other people. I wasn't in any great need, emotionally or sexually, for another woman in my life, and I wasn't going to let her words influence me without seeing actions behind them. Lucky for me my lady walked the talk.
You WILL get over your stbx with time. Enjoy the moments of discovery in the new people that you are getting to meet.
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Whoa, guys! Slow down the dating thing. According to the experts you do need some time to heal. The rebound relationship thing is a bummer. Been there, done that.
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