Hopefully someone will have some answers about my fiance' child support dilemma.
According to child supports services, he owes child support if his 18 soon to be 19 yr. old is enrolled in college or trade school and making passing grades.
We have reasons to believe that she is enrolled, but most likely not attending. Is there any way to find out whether or not she is attending or are we doomed to wait it out till final grades are out at the end of the semester.

We did contact the school, and they say it's a privacy issue, and are not at liberty to discuss it. Sheesh!

I don't know where you live or the particular laws that apply to you, but in my divorce papers, it specifically says that child support will continue for the minor child until he/she reaches the age of 19 OR upon graduation from high school, whichever occurs first. In other words, if the child in question has already graduated from high schoo, then regardless of reaching age 19 or not, child support order ceases.

That's not to say that the parent should continue to assist with their child's educational expenses with whatever means they are able to do so.

Just my .02.

In my state, child support and paying for college tuition and other expenses is mandatory until the child graduates from college or reaches 23. As it should be.

Colleges are prohibited by law from sharing any confidential information about their students with the parents, if the student is over 18.

I don't understand what the big deal is. The semester is about half over. Just wait a couple of months and then ask to see the grades. Two months is hardly "doomed." And if my 18 year old were unemployed, whether or not he or she were in school, I would not cut off all support. I probably wouldn't give him money to buy CD's with, but I sure as heck would feed him - and cutting off child support is the equivalent to cutting out his food and shelter. Oh yeah - his mother would probably not let him starve - it is always the custodial parent's responsibility, when push comes to shove. The non-custodial parent isn't really responsible for making sure the kids can actually survive - the non-custodial parent just has to pay what the law mandates, even if it means the kids are out on the street or living in poverty.

And why, exactly, is this any of your business? It is the father that is responsible for the child support; child support is based only on the father's income. It's not coming out of your pocket.

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<small>[ October 15, 2002, 07:18 PM: Message edited by: Nellie1 ]</small>

Nellie,
I understand what you are saying but there is much more to this than you know.
My fiance has always paid his child support as well as maintenance. When his son was emacipated at age 20 after dropping out of school, my fiance continued to pay the same amount of child support that was set up for both kids.
Since then he has been laid off work and hasn't been able to find work in his field for the last three months. But he continues to pay double child support and maintenance. He's now about at the end of his savings. Not that that changes his obligations, but circumstances have drastically changed.

His daughter had enrolled in a trade school and was working. She quit her job, wrecked her car, lied about both and now we can't reach her.
She got her grandparents to sign her lease on her apt. which now the rent is way overdue on. They also gave her money to pay tuition till her Grant money came in. They now have to pay her rent untill the apt. is rented out again. They don't know if she ever even attended any classes to begin with which means NO grant money for payback to them.
She also asked her dad for her life insurance policy so she could take a loan against it to pay the money back to her grandparents, which she hasn't done.
She borrowed Dad's car telling him that hers needed a fuel filter and it had broken down. We went through three different stories before finding out that she had totalled her car. In the mean time she put over 800 miles on Dad's car in a little over three days, and drove it till it broke down. Then she lied about that too.
We only found out that she had quit her job when we called there to locate her. The person we talked to there told us about her wrecking her car and she told us that she had quit her job. She also told us that his daughter had another job already.....AT A STRIP CLUB!!

So we have no clue what on earth she is up to or how to go about trying to protect everyone she is deceiving.
Oh, and by the way, her mom could care less as long as she doesn't stop getting her maintenance and double child support money. She's selling the house and moving in the Spring.

Iceman,
Thanks for your input. But the state law here is the same as Nellie 1 mentioned. If in college or Trade school and have acceptable attendance and grades, it's up to age 23.