My husband and I have been married for 7years and together 9years. The first 5years of our relationship he was an unbelievable drunk. He has been clean for 3years now. We have never been the typical kissy lovey huggy happily married couple, but I did not realize it was really that bad. We have been having more arguements lately, but still not that big of a deal. Well about 4weeks ago he started stating out loud that he did not want to be married anymore and he did not want to be with me anymore. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> I do feel that there is infidelity (proof actually), but I still don't think that is it. We have only been going to counseling 3times and are continuing to do so. I moved out a week ago and that was ok except there was not much contact from him. I could not handle it where I moved so we both decided it would be best for me to move back home and if he needed to bad enough he would move out. We had a short and very direct discussion last night that me moving back in was making things worse. Well he never calls me at all during the day, yet talks to his friend and family all day. When I get home he is in total avoidance, yet says he still loves me and is just confused right now. I really don't understand because I don't ask him were he is going and I am trying so hard not to pressure or push him. I have tried and said everything possible. I have stepped back (did not work), I have pushed forward (did not work) now we are just at a idle and nothing gets talked about. He keeps stating that he doesn't want to be married for 14 years and find out it was all a waste like the first 7years. He will not drop or forget the past (which was way way more him and the alchol). I have been through hell and back with this man and now he doesn't want me!!! He wants to come and go and not include me or be with me at all yet again he says he doesn't know if he wants to split and he does love me. He continues to spend alot of effort with this "friend". I have confronted him very politely about it and he swares he is not cheating with her. This may be true but it is really hard to fix a marriage when all of his energy and attention is going elsewhere. He comes home at night and states he just needs some space. I have made an appointment to get myself counseling, to help me deal. I am just not sure he is going to stick around long enought for the counseling to even really get started. Help I just don't know what to do?!@#>!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />