Ok. My D is going to be final very soon and I know I should be removed from this but I can't keep my mind away from it. I know that STBX is rekindling the relationship with the OW. He had a PA back in Dec and Jan and when we got back together he said it did't mean anything, yada yada. She works where he does. He is boss and part owner of the company but they couldn't fire her of course. So I find out through my snooping that he is emailing her again, talking, and even possibly planning on spending Thanksgiving with her (in lieu of time with his son).

At first I thought I could handle it but now as time goes on I'm so tempted to anonymously email someone else at their work that something is going on or let the other business partner know. If word got out that he was starting up again with her all heck would break loose. But, I'm sure they would probably trace it back to me so what good would it do but ruin any civility we have? But geeze it hurts. I truely believed he had no feelings for her except she was a warm body..and still think so but he has no where else to go but back to her. He doesn't make friends easily and I guess she's stupid enough to welcome him back.

Help! Give me some insight..similar stories. I'm sinking fast here! I'm worried I'm going to blow up at him and say something and then he'll know I've been snoopong and he still gets to me.

Hopeless in AZ

I wouldn't do anything. Just let him be, and let him sink by himself. He knows he committed adultery, he doesn't make friends easily, so he goes back to what was comfortable and is going to use her again. Let him be, do not take yourself down to his level. Be an upright USA citizen. Be kind, be smart, be caring for yourself, let him screw himself. Just try to put your heart on your back, when you hear your H voice, or see him. This is hard, I know, I still have days that I can't take much more. But it is the only way we are going to survive. Your WH doesn't care about you, take care of yourself, and forget about him for now.