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I've had a terrible week. Received WS response to why he cannot pay child support. This is what he claims in his affidavit. We are appearing in court on 25/10
My salary quoted is incorrect and I can get work that pays me a better salary for my qualifications or just hold down two jobs.
Because he is no longer in the house, grocery, electricity etc bills had to drop by 50%. He quote amounts which goes way back to 1992. He must be stuck in a time warp.
These are the things we had whilst he was at home but which he now claim is unnecessary:
End pool maintenance contract as I can clean the pool myself.
Retrench gardener as I can do the gardening myself.
Retrench housekeeper as I can put children in aftercare and do housework myself. (Aftercare will cost more than housekeeper)
We never entertained or took children out so me listing entertainment expenses is not warranted.
Take aways once every two mnts, holidays never.
As for clothing we never spend any money on clothing, not for him, children or myself. (Wonder why he got compliments as the most sassy dresser at his office)
Petrol expenses - I never drive around only use car to get to work.
He will only pay school fees but no other costs regarding education.
PROTECTING THE OW:
Marriage has broken down long before he met OW and I was aware of it.
He lives in a humungous house with 9 rooms. Ow shares half of the cost of rental.
She carry all her own costs, holidays are split 50/50.
She pays for the flights of her children once a month to them.
She helps him financially to maintain their standard of living.
They need a full time housekeeper as they live very busy lives.
This is now the woman who gave up custody of her children to her ex/h because she was struggling financially. Also keep in mind that she earns the salary of an ordinary secretary.
No money is spend on her as she supports herself. Then he list their expenses which is three times more than mine. This is for two people staying alone.
How deep in the fog is still man still.
Today I feel like just giving up.
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BS40/ WH40 / OW38
Married 12 years
Together since 1983
DD10/DD2
A since - 03-01
D-Day - 07-01 (OW telephoned me)
WS moved out under false pretext 05-01
Moved back home 08-01
Seperated 10-01
OW is WH secretary
WH moved in with OW 11-01
WH served DV papers 25/03/02
7 hrs difference in time zone
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Just THINK how much fun the judges must have relating these stories to their families when they get home at the end of the day!
Remember, they'll think it's just as ridiculous as everyone reading it here.
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