Hello I am new to all of this so I don't know how to get started. Last October my husband woke up and told me that he was not happy and that he was leaving. After several months of separation and Counceling I found out that he thought he was in love with a co-worker. Despite the fact that I was willing to stay in the marriage and forgive the infidelity he chose to leave a marriage of 8 yrs and two children (6 & 4). One week after the divorce was over he has a nervous brake down and says that he had made a big mistake. Nothing changed though. He seems to be fighting the fear of failure if we tried again. I want to restore a relationship with him, but feel that he is not ready to make the commitment. I read about Plan B. I have tried to do that but find that I crave the attention he gives me when he is thinking about coming back. How do I put distance between us without making him feel rejected and unwanted?
Should I even try to restore a relationship? It has been three months since the divorce was final. I truely believe that God's plan is for us to stay together. What do I do while God deals with my ex-husband? Should I cut my losses and move on? What is the Bibles view on how the
"set aside" wife should act? Help!!!!

Dana,

I also believe God wants my marriage restored. When he first left almost 3 years ago, I wanted to know God's will for marriage also. I wanted to know what the bible said but was having trouble understanding what to do. Most even christains said to give up, it was hopeless, to go on with my life. This didn't help. I cried out to God and He lead me to the following site. www.restorem.org

The book there is all God's word and written by a lady that went throught the same things you are going through. Her marriage was restored. It takes time and you must let God change you. I have learned so much from reading this book.

I found this site right before my pretrail date. I posted a prayer request and ordered the book. Praise God the divorce never has taken place. God has done so many things in me since then. My husband and I have a good relationship now. He is not home yet but I know he will be.

gentle