Well,

I had come to what I thought was a pretty good place with ex -

we had a property settlement and had hopes for working in a somewhat positive direction with the kids......... not.

He had the baby today for the first time in a week - and he leaves her with HIS PARENTS so he and OWW (other woman wife - thanks npig) can go on a date.

Baby is teething, and fussy and doesn't sleep, and oldest child had to leave a slumber party because he threw up and H leaves them all with his parents...... they need their parents when they are sick, not to mention they could get the other kids sick too. And he didn't even ask me to take care of them.

And I am all for the grandparents having a relationship with the kids - but the baby isn't even adjusted to her dad - and he has a fixed schedule by the court - and now he leaves her with people (albiet relatives) who have only seen her maybe twice in the last few months.

ExH has no brain to speak of and I am even more sure of it now.

I fell for the old - we don't need the court to set the schedule anymore line - well I should really have learned my lesson by now. I must be really thick headed for all of the crazy things that he has done not to have made an impression.

And the child custody matters will take another 6 months at least.

This is a nightmare.

I know that in the grand scheme of things this isn't really that big of a deal(I hope) but I do worry about attachment issues with the baby - if messed up now, this could affect her entire life, and it just shows Exs priorities.

And in a normal situation, the wife should be first, but not in this one, when he's dealing with MY kids.

Ok, needed to vent. Already left a terribly angry message on Exs answering machine, which I probably shouldn't have, but I wanted miss OWW to know I was upset too. He'll probably let the kids listen to it and then say that I scarred them.

Still positive and loving my life - WITHOUT Ex. And I am putting ALOT of trust in God to send me a Christian husband this time around.

Hang in there everyone! K

K,

Can I just barf on your xh? That's the mood I'm in tonight but if I thought it would help, I would do it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

God is with you through all this & who can answer why why why ?????? It must be so hard to let the kids go, but especially the baby. MY WH has little or no interest in the kids, so I don't think I have to worry about those issues & pray that I don't.

You and the kids are in my prayers.

God Bless,

D.

WGTT -

Please do.........and with my blessings...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

What a great way to start the day by reading your reply. I loved it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ex will never know what hit him.......do you think it would wake him up out of the fog.......

I hope you made it through yesterday ok.

Last night was a good reminder to me to continue to be firm with ex - just like with my 3 year old. Unfortunately, that is the way it will have to be for a very long time, so I just need to dig my heels in and stand firm and accept that is the way I need to act.

Thanks for the reply! K

<small>[ November 02, 2002, 07:51 AM: Message edited by: God is in Control ]</small>

K..

Document away. That is all I can do. Then present it to the court. He isn't going to get the custody he deserves. What may happen in the next few months is that when he sees he is going to get smashed in the custody hearings, he will begin to see what OWW has done to his family and how her "just wanting to be a good stepmom" has been anything but. She is selfish too. It doesn't take rocket science to see that.

And I am praying for God to send you a TOUGH YET LOVING CHRISTIAN MAN YOUR WAY AND ESPECIALLY FOR THE KIDS..

Incidentally, listen to this for encouragement...My old Obgyn in TN was a very successful man. His W cheated on him. He is a kind and fun guy. Not the kind of doc or man for that matter to just toss aside. We were great friends. He divorced his W sadly. But then he met this wonderful woman. When I went back home to get, unfortunately, an std screening b/c of H's affair, he told me he had JUST GOTTEN MARRIED IN A BEAUTIFUL ISLAND CEREMONY. And his lovely new wife has five kids from her previous marriage...Her H left too. But God had in store for her a lovely and professional man who was, because again of the sin of his wife, denied the chance to have children. Heck, his whole life was devoted to bringing precious children into the world. And God surely blessed them both.

Does that make you smile? It should. BTW, they are thinking of maybe trying just once...For a baby that is....God gives second chances to those DESERVING of it. Your xH and OWW are totally doomed and that is sad for her kids too. More brokenness to look forward to. But their foundation is on quicksand. Can't build on that can you? Cheer up. Mr. Right is out there somewhere...

Oh, and today a nice surgeon I am friends with wants to go for sushi tonight and a good kid movie w/me and son just as friends...This is unusual. But I only like him as a friend. This is wierd..Your thoughts? I am in med field too, so this is why I have so many medically challenged (we laugh and call ourselves this) friends... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

GIIC,
I'm sorry he's still playing games, so is mine.
We still have nothing resolved on custody. And I sent out a prayer request, and realized that although nothing got resolved, I am better able to handle it, and understand how important it is to fight for my children.
Take Care, and thanks for being there for all of us.