I reasently posted In the other topic area's franticly searching for answers. My h only a week ago was finaly breaking contact with the OW! We read about withdrawl, he knew he had to go through it and that our mariage was worth it. He said he was in love with me and that he wanted to and knew our marriage would work.

This was an intence 10 month affair, at one point we seperated(bfore I new about the A) and they moved in together. That was 6 month of hell, he said they were friends that crossed the line once, and we continued to have a physical / emotional realationship the whole time. I found out how far from the truth that was about a month ago. I didn't have the tools avalible to me like MB so I was trying to get him back anyway I could. He moved back in for 2 months seeing her the whole time. After having his mother as a mediator we had a great talk and both really wanted to mend our relationship. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

But he needed closure with her. He talked for 2 hrs on the phone I was right there. He read her everything he just learned told her that he wanted our marriage etc... He was going to get some of the things that she still had of his, he said I'll be back in about 15 min.

6hrs latter I GOT A CALL! He said he can't do it! He can't loose her and that he's in love with both of us , but more with her. He dosen't want to go through life wondering if he missed out. What? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

A complete 180! He all of a sudden is 100 percent sure he wants a devorce! And next week is going to file! Yet yesterday said that he still is in love with me and is going thrue withdrawl from me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

He's "in love" with me, we have 5 children, he knows our marriage would work, he knows he would get through the with drawl! How is he sure he's doing the right thing? And why a devorce so soon?

He moved out that night he told me, so that was last monday.

Am I in a plan B, No love busters, acting like I'm moving on etc...

Or should I just forget about my marraige that I want so much?

I'm affraid that after the D he might want me back in the future once it all hits him. I want to prevent an actual devorce, but allso don't want to look needy. And if he realy does file I'll have to sign, I don't want him to think I'm trying to hold him back! This is Crisis mode right now and he's acting so impolsivly!

What do I do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ November 02, 2002, 07:18 AM: Message edited by: Heavy - Heart ]</small>