I had THE talk ( that my MC/IC told me to have) with my W last night so I'm moving back to the recovery forum to see how long it lasts this time. My MC/IC is going on disability so I've decided to stop counselling altogether. W and I will try to counsel ourselves. This is the talk I had with her...prefaced with 2 questions.

1. "Have you had ANY more contact with OM since
10-18-02...date work phone number was
changed?" W ANSWER..."No".

2. "Do you have or have you EVER had the OM
current cell phone number?" W ANSWER.."No". W
lied about this before...OM changes cell
numbers more often that I change clothes.

"If I EVER find out that these answers are untruthful, I will file for divorce, even if it's a year from now."

"My MC/IC have discussed your phone conversation with your mother regarding your relatiionship with OM and HIS v-mail messages he left on your work phone. MC told me that I will NEVER find out the truth about your relationship with OM because you have talked out of both sides of your mouth. MC/IC has told me that I need to try to put that problem behind me and not delve back into the past to try to get the truth. But...from this day forward, if you EVER lie to me again about contact I will file for divorce. If the OM contacts you and you do NOT file a police report using the PPO, I will file for divorce. The MC/IC and I agree that 15 months of deception and using BOTH of us (OM and me) is long enough. MC/IC has stopped me from filing 3 times now to give you that one more chance and this is the last one."

**The phone conversation W had with her mother was TAPPED from my home phone, d-day #6**
W said she understands and wants to move forward. TIME WILL TELL...

I am moving back to recovery forum to try to recover from this train wreck....... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />