Hi Jac,

How are you? I'm just checking in with you, and wanted to see how things are.

Lv,
Jo

(((((((((((((((((Jo))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks for caring, I appreciate it so much.

I am not doing great, but I am coping better than I thought. All the good advice here makes such sense, so it keeps me from going mad while I am turning things over and over in my head.

I haven't got the actual papers in my hands yet, but I expect them today. I will sign my marriage away, and then get back to the business of caring for my kids.

My son is my main concern right now....he and the Christmas situation are worrying me much more than a piece of paper. He is talking with a counsellor today, so I hope that I can have a clearer picture of how he is thinking, and what to do about it from the counsellor's viewpoint.

So I am just getting through the days, letting the divorce happen and thinking I will mourn it later. I know this may not be ideal, but you have to pick your battles, and my son is more important to me right now. He needs all my strength.

I admit to having trouble sleeping all over again, depression (yes I am on zoloft - a high dose already) and loss of appetite. But those things are probably normal under this cloud which I find myself.

I will get through, I always do, one way or another.

Thanks again,

Love and light,

Jacky

Hi Jacky,

I'm so very sorry to read what's been happening with you. I too was served with divorce papers on monday. WS lied as to the date of seperation so it was completely unexpected. It was such a shock, luckily the lady who served me was kind and gave good advice. I think I'm still in shock, and my emotions are completely haywire. So I know what you're going through, in my case there are no children and it must be even harder for you.

One thing, you don't have to sign the divorce papers as far as I know. It doesn't make a difference legally here in Queensland if I sign or not, so I won't. There is no way I will put my signature to something I am so against. The case will be heard on the 11th December, which means it will be final on the 12th January. That is our 18th wedding anniversary and my birthday too.

I'm praying for you and your children Jacky, and that your husband comes to his senses.

Evensong (in Queensland)

Hi Jacky, I'm thinking of you and your kids. Things will get better soon.

Hi Evensong, so sorry to hear about your Dv, the timing of it is really awful, I imagine it will be a very difficult day.