Hi everyone, I normally post on the EN forum, but I can't get it to let me post, so here it is for now.

W Called at 11:18. Talked to Ayla...Ayla evidently told her she got her school pics because Caren asked for the big one, I said OK and Caren gave her address to Ayla...Then Ayla told Caren her email address and Caren had Ayla tell me the reason her email doesn't work is because she doesn't have a computer. Caren asked via Ayla when we could swap cars and I said I don't know. Then she told me, "Daddy, momma said you need to talk about that, I said I'm not talking to her, and Ayla said she said "she'll just keep the Neon" and I told her to have Nanna call me. She gave Ayla her phone number so she could call when we left...She was talking about the jobs and said that none of the jobs have called him back yet. So I'm assuming she has no plans of coming home but she's checking up on me. Now she's talking to Sean. Talked to him less than 5 minutes and Sean gave me the phone and I handed it to Ayla. Sean was upset about that. Then Ayla said buy to her and got off the phone at about 11:36. Caren told Ayla that she was sleeping with Mr. Bear (that's a bear of Ayla's that she has had since she was little).
She told Ayla that she was working at a Zippy store at night...Which is a gas station. She said she can't go to the library because she works. Just another excuse I guess.

I guess this is just another affirmation that she's not thinking about coming home. She must really like the way she's living. To tell the truth, I hate it. I hate knowing that she's living the way she is. My heart aches and I don't see any hope of her coming home.

I guess all that talk about her not being sure about divorcing was just BS.

Thoughts?????????

<small>[ November 10, 2002, 01:30 PM: Message edited by: Lone Wolf ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Lone Wolf:
<strong>...I'm assuming she has no plans of coming home but she's checking up on me.

I guess this is just another affirmation that she's not thinking about coming home. She must really like the way she's living. To tell the truth, I hate it. I hate knowing that she's living the way she is. My heart aches and I don't see any hope of her coming home.

I guess all that talk about her not being sure about divorcing was just BS.

Thoughts?????????</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey, LW,
I'm so sorry to hear that things don't look so good.
Remember, WS's usually have to hit ROCK BOTTOM before they consider looking UP, or climbing back out of the mire they put themselves in.

The fact that she's working in a gas station, nights, doesn't have any of the "finer things in life" (such as a computer!), and job troubles, plus, apparently your son doesn't want to spend a lot of time talking to her? Is that right? I'm sorry I don't know much of your story...
That must have been a bummer to her.

Just keep doing what you are doing, strengthen yourself, take good care of your kids, and focus on what's important in your life NOW. In time, I suspect she will come around, and you're going to need all your strength to deal with it then. and will need to have all the answers, since she's quite confused

Take care.
NcogNeeToe