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if my girlfriend is almost completely depent on me now. do you guys think that because of her lack of outside relationships will hurt our impending marriage?
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My thoughts are these - don't mistake dependence for love, because one day she might become independent and not need you anymore and then you still want her to want to be married to you.
I hope that you read the information on this site as well as His Needs Her Needs by Harley BEFORE you get married, to make sure that you both know what will make a successful marriage and to prevent you ending up on THIS BOARD as a divorcee.
There are lots of books to help you prepare for marriage and it couldn't hurt to do a little work now....I think the saying is an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of heartache. And if she isn't willing to discuss some of these issues now, then that should give you some insight about what will happen in your marriage, especially if problems arise.
Just my 2 cents. K
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seeing stars,
Hi, I responded on your other thread as well.
GIIC has some great suggestions.
My question is why is she almost dependent on you? Sometimes one person falls in love harder or faster than the other one and gives up almost everything else. That makes the other person feel uneasy and trapped. If that is the case, it would be better to be honest (nicely and even if it hurts) and to back down a little from the relationship until the 2 of you have figured this out.
There may be other reasons such as growing up in an alcoholic family, drug or alcohol use, just to name a few. If so, it can affect the person in a big way.
If you can post more, we can help you to better answer your question.
God Bless,
D.
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