I posted this on GQII as well...

How many of you have had WS say they wanted out and actually went through with it? Anyone see hope in my situation or have anything similar?

My H told me a week ago he wanted out. He has talked to a lawyer and is waiting on some information (child support I think) but has made it clear that he can't commit to me completely and that is what he knows I deserve.

The OW is also getting a D. The A has been on since May with a couple attempts to end it but he can't get her out of his head. Their emails are pretty heavy...I love you forever, We'll be together soon, I need you, etc.

I'm still in plan A since we live together. OW lives 7 hours away, so they don't see each other often although talk at least 3 times a day and email.
He has told me that he knows it may not work with OW (due to distance, not having actually spent alot of time together, etc.) But that he doesn't know that he could remain faithful to me anyway so want's out.

Another twist is that I'm pregnant and due May 15. I have asked that we hold off on D and selling our house, etc. until the baby is born because I just don't know if emotionally I can take going through that while being pregnant. He is thinking about that and again, waiting on what his lawyer says.

I'm staying because I'm comfortable in my own house, believe it or not I still want to be around him, and I wonder if him experiencing this pregnancy, etc. being a part of it will help to get him out of the fog.

Anyone have comments, hope, suggestions?

Many times a ws threatensd divrce and never does anything. they may even get a lwayer and get all the papers filled out but just end up sitting on them.

Some people just seperate & never get divorced. It's easier on the ws to do this as they do not have to deal with the bs. They just leave.

I'm still in plan A since we live together.
Just keep at it.

I wonder if him experiencing this pregnancy, etc. being a part of it will help to get him out of the fog.
Possibly. Along with the ow being 7 hours away and getting a d. The person who divorces to be with someone else has to look at it that what they have given up (marrige, children, house, alimony, child support, etc) is not as great as the ow/om is so great/special/fantastic.

If this person is that great, how come they are the ow/om?

MANY, MANY, MANY WS have said they want out and come back!
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I hope that is the case here....It just seems like something needs to give for him to come out of it. I told him that I hoped he had looked at all the pros and cons when he made this decision and was sure about what he would be giving up.
I hope this wasn't too much of an LB....I said it as though I was talking to a friend and giving advice.
I think he really does believe that OW is the one for him and that we could not be together again.
I hope when he finds out the child support $$, etc. from his lawyer, and when we have this baby that it makes him aware of how things maybe aren't that bad here.

I hope they dont mean it!!!! I have said that to my wife in the past and now she has moved out and is at her moms!! I didnt mean it I only hope that she dont mean it as well...

Bob