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h cheated on me ever since i was 7 months pregnant. my son is 16 months old now. he is still cheating. he has been living with ow secretly since march of 2002. he went on vacation with her and came back and filed for divorce. the only reason i found everything out is because i hired a p.i. he walked out on his wife of 7 years and lover of 14 and a new baby fro a tramp. real nice eh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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Hi Jo, and everyone else, My ex-H left me on 12/23/99 and moved in with the woman who is now his wife the same day. Yep, I guess it was for an OW! LOL I can laugh about that now. What I know now but didn't then was that it was the best thing he could have done for me. He was physically abusive to me and wasn't the nicest father to our sons. He actually did me a favor. Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Count me in. The D is not final, but will be soon. W dropped a bomb on me 2 yrs ago that she wasn't happy. Found out about OM 6 months later, although he was in the picture the day the bomb was dropped. 6 months later she filed for D. OM's out of the picture now as best I can tell. I believe my W suffers from depression and OM was just a desperate attempt to find happiness.
She won't admit she's depressed or needs help, but admits she's still unhappy and probably always will be. Depression seems to have doomed our marriage, although OM was a contributing factor. I fought a losing battle for 2 yrs, but I'm ready to move on. You can't help those who will not help themselves.
sad dad
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I'm divorced due to my A. I am still hoping and praying my exH will forgive me, and work on our now non-marriage.(married '81, divorced this past August) OM is out of the picture.
I believe I'm a bit like Sad DAd's wife, and depression pushed me too into the stupidity of having an A.
In my life, I never thought I'd be divorced. I never thought I'd have an A. But here I am. My one solace is knowing that God forgives, and that there is hope for a better future (than today) one way or another. I can only work on being a better person, and showing people that I am the decent person I was before my meltdown and A.
Take care,
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Hi Jo - as you know, my XW was "not having an affair."
"I'm NOT having an affair - I said I was in love with OM!! What part of that don't you understand???!!!"
To answer your question very specifically, I do not know for sure why I am divorced. The only explanation I got was that she was not happy and I "abused" her.
I suspect the real reason is related, in part, to the loss of our youngest son. But I acknowledge that marital problems existed even before he got sick. I assume with you I don't have to defend the "abuse" accusation.
So, like many others, I bet, I cannot say I got divorced because of infidelity/OP.
But I can say with assurance that we were prevented from saving our marriage by infidelity/OP.
See the difference?
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Hi Resilient, NO DOUBT!!!! WW was lying the whole time we were "working things out". It hurts but I know I will get better once our divorce is final 1/03. I guess sometimes WS's have their heads in the ground long enough that they actually believe they are Ostriches <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . But in the end, I still hope the best for her as we did share some truly wonderful memories...... Happy Holidays everyone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> !
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