She's reading right from the WS script, Mike. Blame everyone - and especially the BS - for all their problems and thus relieve the WS of any guilt.
My WH said he was leaving me because I made him less of a man. I supported him for 8 years while he tried to start his own business. And throughout those 8 years I never once threw it up at him that I was the sole breadwinner in the family. I constantly praised him for his courage in leaving a well-paying, secure job for the riskiness of self-employment. And you know what? I was serious! I honestly did think he was so brave for striking out on his own!! I sure never would have the guts to do that. In his more rational moments, my WH admits that I'm right and that I was supportive. But unfortunately his moments of lucidness are brief. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
You know very well that your WW's accusations are BS (and I don't mean "betrayed spouse"). Of course she's going to say anything she can to justify her actions. Just remember that it's all an act, roll your eyes, maybe even do some reverse babbling to make her see how silly she sounds. You know, something like "You should have done more for me", and you respond "yes, I should have - I should never have gotten sick. How thoughtless of me."
So don't start feeling sorry for yourself. You're not the bad guy, and I think you know that. You're just feeling really down and depressed because you still love your WW and are angry at the unfairness of the situation. And then to have her try to blame you for it... What gall!
<small>[ December 03, 2002, 11:29 AM: Message edited by: SH94 ]</small>
