My H is involved in a with MOW (coworker). He moved out week after D-D and told me he wanted $400.00 mediated divorce after 17 year marriage with two teenage sons 15 and 13 years of age. I responded by hiring attorney and filing for divorce. I then spoke with priest and was urged to wait and then find SAA and tried to plan a H. I went to plan b after speaking with Jennifer due continuous verbal abusive from H.

I broke plan b rule last night and spoke with him. He told me he wants joint custody of sons. (he moved an hour away from us) and stated that texas has no fault divorce so his affair will not matter. Does anyone know if his affair will make any difference in the divorce. Dont want to ask attorney since he keep pushing me towards divorce proceeding to protect myself.

I live in Lampasas Texas and I unfortunatly am going through a divorce but i hope that my H and I can reconcil. He just moved out og OW house to much fighting he said anyways to answer your question...
yes it would still matter. Especially if your H up and left you and your sons. My attorny informed me that to bring up the affair which most judges do not like you can submit questions to opposing counsel and your H conserning his affair. Texas is a no fault state but A do matter especially concerning the kids. Infact you can even have your attorney request that when your H has visitation with the kids that no one from the oppostite sex that is not blood related can be arround the kids. It does not mean that your H will listen mine has not but Ow kicked him out <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . If you do not feel comfortable with your attorney get a new one. Many attorneys will give free consultaions so you can discuss everything about your marriage his affair and custody.

Helphopeful, Is your a mediated divorce or is it a trial divorce? Im in Houston and my attorney has a reputation of being very tough and have gotten a lot of positive feedback on his abilities in court but he doesnt like the fact I did not have h served and have not protected my rights. I did change locks, took half of savings and so far my H had paid me agreed amount of 900.00 month for child support and additional money for credit card debt. Where the hick is Lampasas? Is it in West Tx? Rhonda

Mine is a contested divorce. Right now we are just waiting in the wings. I filed the papers because I could not handle if it was the other way around. My H is the one who wants the D says that its best for now I do not think he really knows to tell you the truth. When i filed he was living with OW so I had him served at her house with a restraing order until we were able to go to the first hearing. We settled where he can have vistiation everyother Saturday(thats what he wanted just Saturday) NO sleep overs since he was living with S*** and he can not have anyone of the opposite sex around the boys during visitaion no alcohol and no drug use including tobaco use. He broke the visitaion agreement and if he does again he will have to put up a bond with the court to see the boys for another visitation and if he fails that time then I get the bond money he gets a night in jail. We also made arrangements on child support but I have not seen any money for support. Now that he lost anothe job I wont see it for awhile I have to discuss this with my attorny. Yours is right you need to protect your self and your kids But if you do not want the divorce have him file the papers I wish I had done this its costing me an arm and a leg. I am hoping for a positive outcome.
At least you H is taking responsibilities for the kids and even the debt. Thats good. We have four boys 5,4,20months,and 9months old and we are in debt bad but all of it is in his name so he will have to pay it off 39,000 but if he fails to they can also have me forced to pay for it since it was made during marriage. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Oh since you have been married for over ten years you are alos intitiled to recieve alimoney even during the divorce. I found a site on the web i don't know the address but if you go through the searches and type in Texas Divorce you can get most if not all your questions about Texas divorces there.
Lampasas is next to Copperas Cove Killeen Fort Hood area. Small Small town

Helphopeful, Thanks for your reply! My H is taking responsiblity due to threats his family made towards him. We also moved into a new home a year ago and he promised our sons that he would keep them in our home. Our sons love the neighborhood, new schools, and new friends.

I'll look up Texas divorce on internet for answers. I honestly did not want to do that type of research since it makes the whole thing real. Ill be praying for you..Rhonda

Your welcome If there is anything Ican do let me know. This is all new to me but I am always ready to listen Thank you for your prays I to will be praying for you.