I visit this site often, haven't been posting much, mostly reading & learning. Here's an issue I am struggling with, I would appreciate some feedback.<P>My H & I have a healthy marriage and a bountiful sex life. We have been married 1 1/2 years. We do a lot of exploring and basically enjoy each other's bodies. However, he has had a request that leaves me feeling strange. We bought some 'toys' recently. We have been having fun with those. He then went and bought some butt plugs, both of us have used them on each other. But now, he wants to use it all the time. 2 nights ago as I was pleasing him with it, he said, "Bet you wish you had a big c**k now to put up my @ss" I was in shock. I carried on b/c I did not want to upset him. But I am so confused. Does this mean that he is bi-curious? Is this wrong as Christians? I want to bring it up with him but I am not sure how. Your advice is appreciated. <p>[This message has been edited by I'mafool (edited November 07, 2000).]

Dear I'm,<P>The way your H framed his "request" meant he was testing some uncharted waters with you. You did very well to not react negetively at that moment. <P>Let me put your mind at ease. His request does not mean he is bi-curious. It simply means that he want to explore something different. <P>Yes you should talk with your H about his desires. Before you do that you need to decide how you feel about his "idea". Are most of your reservations caused by thoughts that it might be wrong. I too, am a Christian. I believe that anything that two married people agree to (as long as it doesn't involve a third party) is fine. Exploration in the area you two are delving into may require some investigation about health issues too.<P>It may be good for you and your H to agree to some ground rules in this area of your relationship. Below are the "rules" my wife and use to guide our "explorations".<P>1.) NO third parties.<BR>2.) We are free to ask for anything without fear of being thought weird.<BR>3.) No. Means no. <BR>4.) Saying yes dosn't mean you can't say no later.<P>Hope this helps!<BR>Mud <><<BR>