x sent our son xmas gifts early, nothing what son ask for. mailed X a list of items son was wanting. X sent Gamecube games, son has not played system in 5 months. We thought about selling it. Son has playstation that he likes better. Resident Evil is for mature contains blood & gore violence. Medal of honor frontline is for teen violence. Son is 13 doesnt even wont them. I will not let my son have any games like these. Son has already made comments about shooting dad, if cops hit him he will hit them back. X was a cop before being ask to leave force. Our son needs counciling but X wont pay for dr bills he is court order. It is just now getting started in the legal system to make him pay. Our son does not like these types of games, if X had been a father & spent time with his son he would have known this. Instead he was too busy with the town whore. taking son to the store this weekend to let him exchange them & pick out the items he wants. It would have been nice if X had put some type of letter or card inside. He did add his parents name with his on the labels. I guess they arent going to send anything this yr. They changed their phone number so son couldnt call them. They are missing a great child who loves them no matter how nasty they are to him. I know its the thought that counts but this is not the thing to send to a teenager who is having mental problems with his dad leaving home and now engaged to OW.

d-5-02
c-13, 29, 8 gd
me-48, jerk-43
m-over 17 yrs

ow-32
d-7-02
m-10yrs
c-3 under 10

Trade in the games at a local used software/gaming store. Son can get something he would actually LIKE. We have stores called FunCoLand around here where you can do that.

Let your son trade in these games for the things that he wants.
Ex's ideas aren't right about life-why would they be about gifts? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Could have your son ask dad for the receipts of the gifts. Saying, these are not what I wanted, I'm not into the gory stuff, and would like to get this or that. Just tell son to be honest with dad, and say, dad, I sent you a list of the games I like, guess you didn't see the list. Just express, that these are not my type of games, and I would really love these other games. And make a suggestion, that he could write on paper at his dads house, for the next occassion of gift giving, what he would like. That way, he could hand it over to his father, and that way he could see the list from his sons hands, include the other woman and show her the list too.

Have him smile, and say, something caring, and loving as he hands him the list.

Dad & son are not talking. X hasnt call our home since he left 5-01 to live with MOW. Letters to his home are starting to come back unknown doesnt live here. cannot call him at work or OW home, attorney advised me not to. When son mailed him a letter telling dad how he felt about him & OW. X claimed I wrote the letter not son. Now that legal aide will be going after him for non payments. And AL appeal court trial is begining, I cant take the chance for him trying to get me. X knew what son wanted for xmas, X got that letter. X wrote our son these are things your mom wants for you, but what do you want? X is like talking to a brick wall. X wont accept anything our son says to him. X has always told us what we liked or didnt like. Im sure if son talked directly to dad he would have still sent items he liked, not what son wanted.

So how is it that you are knowing what your X is saying, if he doesn't call, and receives no mail? Your son needs to express to dad, in his writing, what he wants. And I don't understand how you are knowing what X is saying, if no contact is involved. Maybe I lost a sentence or two, but would like to be clarified of this.

Having your son do the writing, contact by son, is the only way your X will realize that your son is stating the information. Yes, the X will use whatever they can to victimize you, put you to the lowest level, he knows how this is done and will continue to do it till you are pulp.

cry2much;

Last contact with X was back in Sept, we exchanged cars. Son would not look or talk with X. I used to call X asking for back support he owes us. Thats how I know what X was saying. X left in 5-01 he has wrote son one letter after I wrote the xmas letter a few weeks ago. Letter came back from x to his son trashing me. Son has wrote his dad one letter a few months ago. It was from the heart how he felt about dad leaving home with OW, D. x told me on the phone when I called him that I wrote the letter. X knows how our son feels about him but doesnt accept guilt, & is still in fog.I do not call anymore, the court system will be asking X for nonpayments now. I will not make our son do anything that he feels uncomfortable with. I thought by writing xmas letter it would open the door for x & son to talk. It only made things worst. Ive done my part, its up to X to start acting like an adult. Quit blaming me for his problems in life. I kept in contact with friends in town who work & know OW & X. X has problems with OW that he is blaming me for. X wrote in his letter to son that he wants son to call him. Even if son wanted to call we have no phone number, at work its harassing, home is OW & we are harassing her. X grandparents have changed their phone to unlist. We are starting a new year with our new life, leaving all the trash behind. No more talking about the life we had before D. Its time to move forward. I have no hard feeling toward X, its time he let go of the hate. And yes he told me he hated me back when I called him months ago. X is the one that is bitter not me.