<small>[ March 26, 2003, 12:00 AM: Message edited by: Happiness short lived ]</small>

Before you fret any more about all of this-FIND OUT IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.
The thing about starting off the commitment with pregnancy is-is it for the child's sake or for love?

I agree, is your statement for love? Sounds like it may be a oh my gosh, I might be pregnant? He needs to know right away, that you think you might be pregnant. Get the pregnancy testing for home. And have him see the results, after you come out of the bathroom. Then if they are positive, say I will call and make an appt. for blood testing at my GYN.

This man needs to know, what is happening. After all he was included in the fun part, now he needs to be included in the results of the fun.

LOok into the mirror, and really say, do I love him. Do YOU? Or are you scared out of your mind, that you are caring his child?

I feel in love with him the second we met,I know who believes in love at first sight anymore right ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

The problem lies on what he truly is feeling,I get mixed signals from him, one min. he says he can't be away from me the next he can't handle it.

If I am pregnant which would be a miricle (1%chance)of course I would tell him but then I will never know if he stayed because he truly loves me or if he is staying simply because I am having his child.

Do I wait to see what he tells me after our break ? and then if it is no I don't want to be with you, I will have all of the issues of having this baby knowing we will never be togeather and telling my childen now 8,12,16 will be devestating.

All I have ever wanted was to have happiness that seems to elude me everytime I get close.

HSL,

one, think real carefully about your decisions, and don't always think that the unthinkable will always be that way.

Initial attractions can be great, but then upon closer inspection, one party might have realized reality first. assume that he might not be right, and just let him decide what he wants to do.

and, have you done the test yet, before any more ASSUMPTIONS?

wiftty

I am going to get one today and do it tonight.

If i am it has to be for a reason...a blessing right ?

However, I can't imagine starting all over ....and just dealing with all of the issues that are going to come with it, besides the relationship delemma it is gonna be horrific !

I guess I will know tonight <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> ....How accurate are those things anyway and how soon can you take one ?

I just pray he really loves me and wants to be togeather through it all, my experience with my ex when we had children was awful we didn't share anything special togeather he acted like he didn't even want to be there and hated the fact that we did not have a boy and blamed me. I don't think I could handle going through it alone again.

I feel sick ! I am going to the store now !

<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Well I took the test it came up negative, and then I got my period. I still think I may be pregnant though, I have to make a doctors appointment, because I have all the signs of being pregnant.

I haven't heard anything from him and I am really gettting upset. How do you tell someone you are in love with them, be an everday part of their life and then nothing ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I am trying to stay strong and positive but this is wearing me down.