My Christmas wish would be to see my children happy and know that they are surviving all of this crap well. I would wish for peace in my home always.

I have the same wish - That my children are happy and healthy (both physically and mentally).
They "graduated" from their Rainbows class last night and seemed to learn alot about dealing with their feelings. I pray they will continue to grow into wonderful, healthy people.

God bless everyone on this site, and pray for their recovery.

My Christmas wish would be...........that none of this happened in my life and that my XH would have shared with me what he was feeling and that he would have been willing to work on our marriage.

But am accepting that I have an awesome God that loves me and takes care of me and that I have family and friends that love me and have helped me thru all of the hurt and forsakeness that I have felt!!!

New Years resolution is to continue with my life the way that it is, to find some help for my son and to re-establish my savings account!!!

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I agree...

I hope so very much that my boys will be OK through all this. I see so much that they have lost, it pains me deeply. They will know their life, but not what it could have been. I hope that what they know will be worthwhile. My wish is that they will be healthy and whole. Even in this turmoil. That they will always feel loved. With those things I will find my peace. That is all that I want, but it is everything.

That I never moved to X home town Atmore Alabama back in 1999. Living in a small farm town where A are so common. They act like a bunch of dogs in heat & breed like farm animals. Since that nightmare has pasted. I just hope our son is happy & will adjust to our new life together without Dad. My second wish without sounding nasty is that X feels the pain he has put his family though to be with another man's wife.

m-too long
d-5-02
c-13, 29, 8 gd
me-48, x-43

OW-32
d-7-02
c-3 under 10
m-10 yrs

I wish for my stbxh to get on his knees and beg for forgiveness. He asked me what he could do to mend this, and I stated it, and it was never done. Anyways, I want to hear him feel remorseful and regretful. No justifying his actions, no giving excuses, just be down right regretful and how he has hurt me and the kids.

Also, I wish he would put the otherwoman down, verbally to my ears, she is nothing to be proud of, with her sexual affairs (2) for sure in her long term marriage of 28 years. With her coercing and manipulation to me (his wife), and he never once said she was totally in the wrong, always justified her actions.

Also, I wish that he would be downright in pain for all that he has done to myself, and the kids. Our kids are having issues with his affair. Our kids were older, and to see there dad act like an idiot, calling the kids names, hearing him call their mother names in front of them and to feel no remorse or guilt.

I have asked him to go to counseling with me this week. I have found through my pastor a counselor that works with mid-life crisis, betrayal, lies, and everything that deals with mid-life crisis. I want him to tell me and the counselor, that he is going to make a committment, to work on the issues of this marriage dissolving.

I want to feel good about myself, I want to know that I am a good person. I want to know that my husband loves me. He has never on his own, since his affair, said he loves me. It was with a request by me, and so therefore, I gave up. He does not love me, does not love me for anything but just a friend.

How can a man after 25 years of marriage, today is our anniversary, just dump me and say he is done.

Anyways, that is what I am asking for, a lot, but I decided to let it out. I am tired of holding things in, and not expressing myself. I am tired of a lot of things, I am tired of pain, and I am tried of not feeling well.

Yes, I would love for my husband to say he is sorry for injuring me, causing me to have rotator cuff surgery. He justifies that, and does not once say he is responsible for the injury. He always says if I had not done.....! Where is the compassion, and feelings from this man. Where is the pain that I feel every day. How would he like to be in traction, taking pain pills everyday, going to physical therapy 3 times a week, and massage therapy once a week. He gets to go to the gym, go shopping, to the computer stores, book stores, whenever he wants. He spends great amount of money, and I have to watch every penny I spend. I am now feeding 4 kids on 1 childsupport amount. 4 grown children, and this is not doing it. He doesn't see how I am hurting financially, and don't want to spend money. I don't know where I will be in the next 3 months. I don't know if I will have a roof over my head. I don't know if the vehicle I have will last, it has 140,000 miles on it. Things are breaking down on it everyday.

All I know is that he has made this life unfair, and sits in his 'hovel' and doesn't have to worry about his future. He has a good career, and he can get a job anywhere. But me, at my age, with my disability, he doesn't care. Just toss me out in the ditch, and survive.

If he cared, he would be showing in many ways. If he would do what I said when he asked me how he could show he cares, but he doesn't. He threatens me quite regularly, and this is caring. NO NO NO!!!!!

WEll, my time to come to dismiss this divorce is near. I can dismiss it, and I have been told how to do it. My lawyer will be upset with me, but deep inside I feel this is the right thing to do. I have talked with counselor after counselor, all have said the same thing, husband is in a mid-life crisis. He doesn't know what he is doing, and he doesn't have good self-esteem. His actions show the depression he is in, and we will see what this upcoming appt. brings out.

Anyways, just a depressing day. And I hate the depression I am in.

My Christmas wish would be....for peace of mind, peace in my heart, peace in the hearts of my grown and almost grown children. Strength to face each day with the faith that our God is a mighty God who loves us and will heal our pain. I would wish for peace for my husband, that he find God again and listen, REALLY listen to Him. His happiness is false and fleeting, he will flounder again and I love him enough to want to help and protect him...I wish for God to guide my words and actions that I might help him. My wish is for every member of this board to know that they are wonderful people, worthy of the love and respect of another person. Lots of wishes and hopes, but isn't that what Christmas represents??-the ULTIMATE HOPE.

Thank you broken,

I wish to experience God's guiding presence in my life each day. I pray for serenity and joy for myself as well as for my H and the OW. My wish is that I could really release all the feelings of resentment and hurt I feel when I think of them since holding resentment toward them only hurts me (since they don't even know, or care, how I feel).

I wish for a brighter 2003 for all of us who've gone or are going through the devastating experience of divorce and/or infidelity. I wish blessings to all of you for being there whenever I'm alone and need to reach out to someone who can understand the pain I've been through. Thank you all.