I have been married for only five months. I am 12 weeks pregnant. My husband and I have only been together for 11 months. My husband and I were trying to get pregnant ever since we got married. Now that I am I know I'm nappy with the baby, but our marriage is not at all what I thought it would be like. On our honeymoon we argued the entire time, he thought every thing was going to chage overnight. I liked it the way it used to be. The longer were together the more I find that he is very jealous. I went out with one of my friends a little while ago and seen a guy I really liked but I was dating some one else. I gave hime my work number and he calls a couple times a day. He know I'm married and pregnant but he also knows how unhappy I have been for most of my marriage. I really like talking to him and I have stopped over his house a couple times. My husband and I argue everytime were around each other, so we stay in different rooms all night till we got to bed. We have sex only twice a month. I get sick to my stomach when ever he touches or even kisses me. I am having him stay in a hotel until I decide if I want a divorce or not. I really need help.

Dear Haley,<P>I took a look at your profile and see that you just registered today. Yes your marriage is in crisis maily because neither of you really knew what you were getting into. Stated another way you guys did no preparation for getting married. Please take the time to read all the Marriage Builders concepts outlined on this site. Gte your H involved in this exploration immediately. Take the emotional needs questionaire together. You two may also need some professional help. Regardless of what you think you want now, you have a child on the way that deserves a loving two parent home! You both took your vows less then a year ago. Stick to them now! Work together, using Marriage Builder,techniques, to build the foundation for your marriage. Get started NOW!<P>Mud <><

I think that getting married is way to easy to do otherwise divorce statistics wouldn't be so high. Marriage isn't thought of as a sacred covenant with God and your spouse, but just something different to do. Hey, I'm bored think I'll go get married. Why were you trying to get pregnant in the first place? Any particular reason. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I know a girl who did the same thing and of couse the one who is suffering is the child. I'm just a little tired of seeing children suffer because grown ups don't think before they jump.

Haley,<P>#1 Nothing good can happen to your marriage while you have a realtionship with this other guy. It sounds like you are headed to an emotional affiar.<P>#2 Get your Husband back home. You are in a better position to work on things with both of you in the same house.<P>#3 Read His Needs/Her Needs together and get working!

Ditto on cleo's # 1!!!<P>------------------<BR>Almost anything can be undone or forgiven.<P>Never take trust for granted.