it has been almost 2yrs since big D xw married the love of her life in june 2002, now mister wonderful has lost his job and has informed xw he is moving to another state and she must leave her family, all her settlment money is gone and she is only one bringing in any money for now, she informed my daughter she is not happy at all over this. Oh well it is what she wanted and now she has it. In some ways I feel sad for her, yet I feel like laughing at the same time. Moral here is be careful what you ask for you just might get it. she got what she wanted and eveything went the way she planned it, only now the tables are turning on her and I think the fog is lifting, reality is setting in and she can't figure out how she got where she is.

You're right jabber. Let them live in the foggy life for a while and then it will crash in on them sooner or later.

And the sad part is some will hopefully want to reconcile, unless they completely burned bridges with their BS. Fear that most have burned the bridge.

But I try to leave it up to God now. And so should you. Don't be surprised. You may receive a knock at your door. Just be praying for her now. And for your strength. God bless you for holding your family together. Your kids depend on you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Happy Holidays

'What goes around - comes around' used to be a favourite saying of my ex-wife. What happened to your ex is about what happened to mine also - and she just blames it all on me... yeah right, like I'm the one who made her new husband have a series of strokes or caused her job hours to be cut... what ever!
How about what the Bible says: "As you sow, so shall you reap" Pretty much sums it all up, doesn't it? I feel like you exactly: In some ways I feel sad for her, yet I feel like laughing at the same time.
How true.
Harold

"What goes around, comes around"

My XW had the gall to quote that to me. I told her to remember that little phrase.

Divorced April 16th, 2001.

She married OM September 2002.

My mother divorced my dad and married the OM, my step-dad. It took umpteen years for that to end. Granted, it was a dead marriage after about a year. My mother was never really happy.

I guess it will "come around" for my XW. OM's XW said they never had sex during their entire 4 year marriage, not even on their wedding night, so I know something's wrong from the start. I know of other things about OM my XW doesn't like, but for now, she ignores.

In time, the fog will wear off and it will all come around.

I hope sooner than later, for my daughter's sake.

I recently met XW to exchange daughter. OM was there for the first time. We didn't acknowlege each other. Makes me sick.

I wish their fantasy would come to an end. I will never be able to do any events with my XW and daughter with the OM in the picture. (birthdays, activites, etc.)

Thanks for the post jabber. Glad to see yet another example of the collapse of affairs, especially those that go so far as divorcing spouse and marrying lover.

In time, a person's true character shows through.

I hope this is okay to post ...In PROVERBS 5 in the OLD TESTAMENT it reads
3:For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil;
4but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. 5: Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.
6She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but she knows it not.

I know it feels good to vent this, but please be careful giving it too much power.

I am reminded of my ex-FIL who has smoked his entire life. He is in his late 60's now and has had tons of health issues, including a stroke and a heart attack. He still smokes.

During a family outing, one of his son's said he deserved the pain he was in, and I said to them, as I say to you, that pain is pain - no matter how you get it. I added that as a fellow human being (who may be flawed, yes) but who is, or has been an important part of your lives - HE DESERVES COMPASSION.

Just something to think about...