Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

Right now we are doing "POWER of a Praying Husband" for the men and "Power of a Praying Wife" for the ladies. You can use this as your prayer or have your own or combine them.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home),WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery),Againstthewind(Got job), Free ( Marriage Restoration begun )

Love in Christ
Cajunky

<small>[ December 30, 2002, 12:31 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

This was posted by FREE on last weeks and I thought we needed it this week to remind us in this new year that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD

My daily devotional that I do everyday was about this same thing. Here is something from it that really hit home.

God still does the impossible! Too often we acknowledge our belief that God can do whatever He wants, then we add a safety clause: "But I just don't think God will do that with me!" We become practical atheists, believeing that God can perform miracles but never expecting a miracle in our own lives.

FREE wrote this and I was so encouraged by it.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Hi all,

Just wanted to let you all know my restoration attempts are progressing well. I am still the biggest obstacle. I am praying for God to work on me and my attidtude as well as H's. We are getting there. H is doing much better but I want to move slowly through this so we don't lose sight of what we are doing and slip back into our old habits and ways. I want to build a new life and relationship, not have a patched up old one. Does that make sense to anyone? God is softening my heart considerably. I just want to keep my priorities straight, pay attention to what is going on and not let anything, that is going to be counter productive in the future, take root now.

I have feelings of sadness for those who are lonely right now, but God IS a God of MIRACLES for all of us who seek him. I appreciate all of you guys so much, for different reasons. Words are so very powerful. They can encourage us just enough to keep going when we think all is lost or they can destroy us. I hope I remember this myself. I recieved this on and e-mail and wanted to share it. It's kind of opposite of the way we think of the "proverbial" straw breaking the camels back.
Merry Christmas.......On a cold winter's afternoon, as the winds howled and
a monster blizzard slowly buried the city under a thick
blanket of snow, a dead limb on an old tree finally
snapped under the weight of more snow than it could
handle.

In the blink of an eye, this old limb, which had
stubbornly clung to the tree for years and withstood
everything, suddenly fell...

...under the weight of *one* more snowflake that,
by itself, weighed practically nothing.

Why should you care?

Because that old limb snapping off gives us one of the
big secrets most of us desperately need to get out of
our box and make our goals happen...

...namely, to keep stacking up "snowflakes" until "it"
happens.

Which means taking one step after another...making one
effort after another...calling one person after another
...taking one chance after another...until we finally
add that last flake...

...and the "branch" breaks and we get what we want.

Simple, right? Yea, but it's the one thing most of us
*don't* do! Hooked on quick results and instant
gratification, we quit when we're 98% of the way there
...when we're within spittin' distance of the success
we've craved!

Because we believe the myth that success is an *event*
that happens fast...versus a *process* of "stacking
snowflakes" that takes time and builds, one flake on
another, until breakthrough happens.

So we give up way too soon, when what we're doing
doesn't seem to be paying off as quickly as we thought
it should. And forget about all those snowflakes we've
been stacking up and are continuing to stack up...that
*will* break us through...if we don't quit.

So tell me...

1) What "snowflakes" have you already stacked up
toward making your dream happen? List all the things
you've already done...big things, little things,
everything!

2) Now sit back with a capuccino and look over the
list and...this is the hard part...tell yourself the
truth about what's really going on...yes, the fact that
you ARE making progress! It IS happening! No, it may
not be happening as quickly as you'd hoped...and yes,
you may still have a ways to go, but you ARE getting
there!

3) Reach around and pat yourself on the back for all
you've done so far. Why? Because it's true, and
because you've got to *give yourself* the positive
feedback you need to keep going. If you don't, you
probably won't get it...not because you don't deserve
it, but because most people can't stroke you for
getting out of the same old box they're stuck in and
have no intention of leaving.

4) Finally, ask yourself how many hours a day (yes,
hours) you're spending working on *your* dream. I know
you're busy, but let's face it...most of us spend our
days making someone else's dreams come true (spouse,
boss, kids, parents, etc.) and then "can't understand"
why ours don't. Trust me: if you don't make you and
what you want a priority and act on it, it'll never
happen and your whole life will have passed you by.

You're so close...it IS happening...all it'll take is
stacking up a few more flakes...don't give up now...

© Pat Lynch, 2002. All rights reserved.

Please feel free to forward this on.

***********

Free

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Love in Christ
cajunky

OK all this sound real good , what do you do when all hopes you have seem effortless. meaning being ignored. You are continuely being disrespected.
H family members are telling me, H is playing with me he has no intention on reconciling.

I know there is ow#2, he won't admitt, he won't even talk to me. I started plan B 12/15/02
I called H & family today just to send a holiday greeting no one answered the phone.

I'm quite sure they saw my number or the caller ID
and no one never returned my call. H called and spoke to all his family member, he never called me that hurt all this stems from, I caught him in a lie, H telling me he doesn't have a cell phone then his phone rings, he's caught he get angry because I'm hurt.

H hung the phone up on me several times that was my last time talking to him 12/15/02
Why am I made to feel, one more time I'm the villian I guess because I allow it. I was also told H is hanging on being married to me so he won't have to get attached or pressured into marrying some else.

H lives in another state so we did a lot of talking over the phone now he ignors me like he did with ow#1 oh that A resulted with OC
Now here is ow#2 I'm being ignored I'm being treated like I've done something wrong. I did find out he has a cell phone I do have the number, he doesn't know it. One of his family members gave me the number. I promise not to call the number.

I'm at the point of filing for a divorce, it's not because I want to it's something I have to do. I feel like I'm at a rock and a hard place.
What do you do, this is what's playing in my head right now.

My thing is why would H contact me after 2yrs telling me he changed, then pick up were he has left off playing games and ow#2 cutting me deeper
why would a person be so cruel and do this.

I know I'm doing Plan b I only called because of the holiday thats all it wouldn't have mattered if I didn't talk to him just to tell everyone happy holidays.

I just needed to vent.

Malc....Sorry to hear about your pain. I know it is difficult to bear but it can be done. Have you tried looking at the rejoice ministries website. It is a great website to see there is hope in saving your marriage. It is done everyday. God and prayers can do it.
www.rejoiceministries.org

Come join our prayer group on weds. and we will pray for your marriage every weds.

I am praying that your husband will come back and be a renewed man and a much better husband.

Please try not to give up on your marriage. My wife gave up and I am living proof that you can change for the better.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ December 26, 2002, 07:30 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

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HER DESIRES

Jan. 1

Is there an interest you wish your wife would share with you? Pray for her to develop that interest. Obviously, nothing is impossible with God. There are dreams and desires that should be prayed about too.

Everyone has dreams. Some of them come from our flesh, but many are put in our hearts by God. It's vitally important to know which is which, because it is miserable when we mistake our own dreams for His. When we pursue our own dreams and make idols out of them, we become unfulfilled. When we don't pursue the ones He gives us, we become bitter. God says we can;t live without a dream or vision. But he doesn't want us to leave Him out of it. He wants us to surrender our dreams to him. When we do that, it will seem as if they are completely dead. But God will resurrect the ones that are from Him and release us from the ones that are not.

Husbands, if you want a happy and fulfilled wife who is a joy to be around, ask her if there is a dream deep within her heart that she longs to see fulfilled.

If the dream your wife shares with you is from the Lord and He opens a door, encourage her to walk through it.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray that You would touch (wifes name) this day and fulfill her deepest desires. Help her to surrender her dreams to You so that You can bring to life the ones You have placed in her heart. I pray that she will never try to follow a dream of her own making, one that You will not bless. Help her to surrender her plans so that You can reveal Your plan. I know that in Your plan, timing is everything. May she reach for her highest dreams in Your perfect timing.

Lord, I pray that in the midst of all my wife has to do, there would be time for what she enjoys most. Help me understand the things that interest her. I also pray that You would make a way for us to share (name a specific activity or interest you would like to do together). Help her to understand my enjoyment of it, and she develop an appreciation for it too. Show me how to encourage her in this area. Give me the words without any negative undertones that will inspire her. If this is not an appropriate activity for us, show us one that would be. I pray we will have common interest we enjoy together.

Lord, I know that You would not give us dreams that aren't compatible. I pray that the desires of our heart will be perfectly knitted togeher. May we not only be caught up in our own dreams but in each other's as well. Help us to always share with one another the deepest desires of our hearts

Remember to pray for your marriage as well as everyone elses.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ December 31, 2002, 04:41 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Thank You Cajunky
I will check out the site and thank you.
I want to have faith, it just seems to get
stepped on.

<small>[ December 28, 2002, 03:42 PM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>

Please add me to your list <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Cajunky please add me to your list.
I will not have excess to PC wednesday but if you can please add me to your prayer list.

I know i'm suppose to be in plan b I called H just to wish him a happy holidays, he hung up on me.
I'm asking myself what did I do he was the one who got caught in a lie not me.

Why am I being treated like I'm the scum of the earth this happeneds everytime he having an A
You tell me to hold on. I ask my self hold on to what?

My H has no respect for me or our marriage he has displayed this over and over again, I'm lost and baffled. I just needed to vent.

Hi Cajunky
I thought about this not long and hard, I look at my present and past circumstances.
A part of me can't even be upset with my H. I allowed him to disrespect me.

He only did what he new he could get away with that's my fault not his. I allowed myself to be a door mat and because of this H felt it was ok to treat me as such less than.

Right now I feel so bad and I'm more angry at self, I should have walked a long time ago especially when OC came aboard.

I feel humiliated I feel stupid naieve everything that is associated with allowing my self to be treated this way.

The only sanity I have right now is freeing myself from this maybe my self esteem will come back. Maybe I will feel whole again maybe I will fell complete.

I have to do this for me. I don't trust him or myself. I don't trust being a friend because he ran with all his opportunities, I allowed him to have. Instead of saying she doesn't deserve this.

Instead of saying she's not strong enough to do this I will not take advantage of her I will love her from a distance , that's wishful thinking he didn't do this.

I don't trust me to be his friend after all this I don't want to find myself being vulnerable again being in the same perdictument so it's best I let go of all ties.

I'll speak if we are in passing, but that's it
I'm saying all of this to say enough is enough. I can't take it no more I have to stand for something, because I've been falling for anything to long.

A friend of mine called me stupid because I took this treatment for so long. I'm not saying I was perfect I responded to him out of pain betrayal and etc. but he didn't love me enough to see my pain, he had a blinds eye and a deaf ear.

I'm filing for divorce before I have a nervous breakdown, or committ suicide or kill him. I have to do this I can't take no more.

Malc.....I feel your pain. I am very pro marriage. What I am saying is to really pray for your husband and tell him you are. Maybe if your husband sees you are serious about this he will get the help and counseling that he needs. If he doesn't change, everything will always be the same. You need to protect yourself at this point and maybe with Gods convictions on his heart he will want to change and save your marriage. I guess I just don't want you to close him out completely if he truelly changes and wants to seriously work on your marriage. The main thing right now is to start working on you and rebuilding your life and hopefully your husband will want to follow you with reconstructing what was destroyed.

Keep praying for your husband and we will too. Prayer does mighty things to a persons heart.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ December 29, 2002, 05:23 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

You know not many feel what you are feeling.
You have faith of a mustard seed in my marriage.
I'm just so hurt right now and lost. I'm just really confused I don't want to make decisions from my emotions please pray for me to have the wisdom of decernment& clarity.

I already have been praying for you to make a decision when after you work on you for a little bit and your emotions calm down. Just pray for your husband and pray for God to show you the things to do and to show you how you can be a better wife and he will gladdly put these things in your heart.

Love in Christ
cajunky

MALC:

Sorry I have not been around to respond to you, but I see Cajunky has things firmly in hand!

You said you are hurt and lost right now. You said your H is angry at you and has no respect for you or your M.

I just want to let you know that God knows all this! He created M, He created us to be Married! BUT, having said that, remember that our marriages are NOT ours to do with as we want to (I have learned this the hard way). We have been given marriage to show the world that GOD LOVES HIS BRIDE unconditionally. GOD LOVED US NO MATTER WHAT we did, no matter how unforgiving, uncommitted, or how far away from Him we went. This is what our marriages are to symbolize.

I have had to learn this the hard way this last year and a half, as my H walked away from our M without looking back. I don't totally blame him. We had both quit putting effort into making it a happy, safe place, and God had NO PLACE in our M for a very long time. It was dead.

I also recieve daily devotional messages from Rejoice Ministries, as does Cajunky. Today's message was exactly what God is teaching me (as outlined above) in so many other ways. It read in part: "He does not want you to want your marriage restored MORE than wanting a daily walk with Him."

I now have a new message from God. A new goal for the new year. I THOUGHT I was on a path to become closer to God no matter what my WH was doing. No. I think I STILL wanted my M restored more than anything else! This is not God's Plan. First and foremost, God wants US to reconcile with HIM! First and foremost, God wants us to remain close to HIM. Regardless of whatever else He is going to do for us, He wants our relationship with HIM to be the most important relationship we have! Why? Becuase it is forever!

Our relationship w/our S is only till death we do part. Our relationship w/God is forever! That's the most important relationship we will ever have! Every other relationship in our lives is only given to us for a season as a "Good and Perfect Gift" from our Lord for our blessing. We need to remember that, and NOT strive to have our M's restored more than have our R with God restored!

I'm not preaching at ya! Only pointing out what I am learning now. Please know we are all here to help in any way we can. But, also, please know that God Loves You! He loves your H, too, but He desires to have a personal relationship with you NOW. He desires to heal you now, and help you become ALL He created you to be. Personally.

Let Him in. All the way.

God Bless you!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">HIS INTEGRITY

Integrity is not what you APPEAR to be when all eyes are on you. It's who you are when no one is looking. It's a level of morality below which you never fall, no matter what's happening arond you. It's a high standard of honesty, truthfulness, decency and honor that is never breached. It's doing for others the way you would want them to do for you.

A man of integrity says something and means it. He doesn't play verbal games so you never really know where he stands. He knows to let his "yes be Yes and his no be No." For whatever is more than these is from the evil one (Matt. 5:37).

A man of integrity "swears to his own heart and does not change" (Psalm 15:4). He will keep his word even if it costs him something to do so. When placed in a possibly compromising situation, he will continue to stand strong in what he believes. Above all, he is a man of truth, you can depend on his solid honesty.

Integrity happens in the heart. Therefore, being a man of integrity is something your H must choose to do on his own. But you can prayfully help him fight the enemy making that decision. Even when he makes the right choice, there will be a negative reaction to it in the realm of evil.
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PRAYER:

Lord, I pray that You would make my H a man of integrity, according to Your standards. Give him strength to say "Yes" when he should say "Yes" and courage to say "No" when he should say "No." Enable him to stand for what he knows is right and not waver under pressure from the world. Don't let him be a man who is "always learning and never able to come to a knowledge of the truth" (2 Timothy 3:7). Give him, instead, a teachable spirit that is willing to listen to the voice of wisdom and grow in YOur ways.

Make him a man who lives by truth. Help him to walk with Your Spirit of truth at all times (John 16:13). Be with him to bear witness to the truth so that in times of pressure he will act on it with confidence (I John 1:8,9). Where he has erred in this and other matters, give him a heart that is quick to confess his mistakes. For You have said in Your Word, "If we say that we have no sin, we decieve ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins. He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (I John 1:8,9). Don't let him be decieved. Don't let him live a lie in any way. Bind mercy and truth around his neck and write them on the tablet of his heart so he will find favor and high esteem in the sight of God and man. (Proverbs 3:3,4)
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SCRIPTURES:
Proverbs 28:6
Proverbs 11:3
Psalm 7:8
Psalm 26:1

MLAC....Hi my name is Dianne and I am going through a divorce too....What I am about to say to you may sound harsh but I am telling you this with love and understanding......you talk about your husband not respecting you....Respect is something that doesnt come automatically...I think I read ealier today where FC responded to your thread and talked about respect.....please re-read what he wrote to you....it's the truth....(If it wasnt your thread, I will find again and let you know where to find what he wrote) what I would love to see you do is start concentrating on YOU.....put all of this energy, time, effort into YOU.....transform yourself into the woman you know you can be.....STRONG, CONFIDENT, SURE OF HERSELF,....pick yourself up off the floor and start to move on.....reflect on your needs, what you want for yourself and take small steps to get yourself going....just remember everything that you are experiencing now unfortunately thousands have experienced before you and have made it through....YOU CAN TOO....concentrate on yourself....taking care of you....think about what you need to do to take care of yourself....hang in there and continue to post, ask questions, give advice.....we all help each other along this road of life....just take care of yourself.....Smile, God loves and we care verry much about you and your well being..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

MLAC....it was Jc's_Mommys post that FC replied too that has some excellent insight on respect...please read

Thank You so much
I read the post I see where I have eered also.I don't respect his choices. I talk to him as he was a child. I have to be honest . I do this because I felt he has failed me as a husband.

Two wrongs don't make it right. I'm learning a valuable lesson here about respect, and choices. Even if I don't like the choices respect them anyway.

Thank you so much for the prayer, it was heart warming. I will make sure I say this prayer everyday.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Even when he makes the right choice, there will be a negative reaction to it in the realm of evil. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Lup, Can you better explain this quote please?
Once again thank you all so much.

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<small>[ December 29, 2002, 09:18 PM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>

I would like to be added to this prayer list. I don't want to be separated or divorced--I have tried DESPERATELY to save my family and my marriage--but I don't have a lot of hope. I can't save it by myself and right now my H isn't ... AARRGGHH!

How about if I continue on with my life and pray that God will work in my H's heart?

CJ