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Anyone know of some good books on dealing with "enabling". Like alcohol, there are habits that some spouses aren't aware of and many times WE enable them to do MORE of that. <BR>I've read all of Hartly's books, but am looking for a book that deals with control and anger in a spouse and MY fear of dealing with it due to her FLAMES.
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I would suggest that you read Boundaries in Marriage by Townsend and Cloud.
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I've heard of that book. Thanks<P>Any other books or resources?<P>Is it honorable to STAND UP for your rights or lay down and get walked on?
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What I am learning is that it is not honoring for your self or honoring your spouse to allow disrespect, etc. to occur. That honesty is more important and saying it in a calm respectful matter of fact way. How the other person responds to your comments is their problem, but you must maintain your own integrity in the process of taking care of you. <BR>In the Womens' Bible Study Forum, there is a long thread where we went through a lot of the Boundaries in Marriage book and perhaps that will help you to get a clearer picture. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000588.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000588.html</A>
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