My wife separated from me 3 months ago and is now invloved with another man or men sexually. I dont know how I feel now. Should I wait to see if God brings her back in a year or two. I still love her, but I am really hurt and betrayed. I have my two teenage daughters living with me, but they don't know what shes been up to. Good christian advice is welcome, and so is prayer for her to come back.

NGJ-

Don't want you to lose hope, thinking no one cares, here! WE DO!

I read your post and you have to elaborate some so other MBers can provide some insight! Many have, through their pain and struggles, much too share! Give us a try...share some more!

I pray your W comes out of the fog.

You ask for 'good' christian advice, i have to assume you're Christian!? turn your face to the Lord! READ Matthew (my ys' name) 11:28-30, his yoke IS easy and HIS burden IS light! JUST DO IT!

He has carried to heights, places I never ever imagined...I am sex addict and through him and him alone I am whole!

In Christ's NAME!
><><><, CG'S!

<small>[ December 27, 2002, 10:33 AM: Message edited by: catch22222 ]</small>

Sorry that you are going through this too.

Read up on Plan A and Plan B.

See if it is something that you would want to try.

The best avice is to take things day by day.

Get a support system for yourself of family, friends, minister or priest or church group, and even a counselor, and a support system for your daughters - even being separated you know that your girls are feeling the pain of the separation.

Use this time to get closer to them, and grow in your relationship with God.

May God Bless Your Family, K

<small>[ December 27, 2002, 12:52 PM: Message edited by: God is in Control ]</small>

Don't give up hope. I was separated and with OM for a long time when I finally seriously tried to reconcile with my now ExH. The 'fog' thing is so true, and it takes awhile to lift. You sound willing, that is important. Many BS's won't forgive, or even consider the thought of a reconciliation. By being here, you are showing your interest.

Treat your wife kindly , as much as you can, and follow the PLAN A advice here. This place is a great place for support. Continue posting, and following the principles here.

God Bless,
H_P
WS, now
divorced...
A ended July
Divorce Final August
wanting
reconciliation

Thanks for all the great advice. Yes I am a born again christian. The other day I wished my wife and her new lover a lifetime of hapiness together. And, yes I do forgive her. However, last night I realized that the person I wanted to come back to me is now dead, replaced by a selfish, lying woman, who sleeps with anyone who breaths. That woman I do not want in my life whatsoever. I trust that the Lord will help me to forget her, and yet to always remember the wonderful memories I had with her these past 22 years, and finally to move on with my life. May God continue to bless everyone on this site as they continue to put Him first in their lives!

Jim,

I read your last post and my heart hurt - 2 1/2 years ago my husband totally lost all sense of who he is and left with another woman. During that time God has restored my life, brought me a great group of friends and blessed me richly with His everloving prescence. How long do you wait? I think it is more important to ask - what has God shown you? God is a God of promises. In the beginning of my walk I waited on God and asked Him to show me what He wanted me to do during this time - and He gave me some very specific promises. So now it is not how long do I wait but God how long until you fulfill what you have promised.

People ask me all the time - do you really want him back - I laugh and say I know what God has done in me and I am looking forward to the man that God will make him as well.

Please, please, please do not act to hastily here - 22 years is alot to throw away - ask God specifically to show you what He wants for your life = and be prepared to act on that whatever it may be. It may not be an easy road to wait but I guarantee that in the end it will be the one with the best results.

Some great sites for encouragement are www.rejoiceministries.org and www.covenantkeepersiinc.org

Take care,

Tina

Thank you Tina for your recent post!

The Lord is doing a marvelous renovation work in my life. I am continually on my knees now, in His Word, and totally submitted to what He wants to do with my life (His life). He has surrounded me with excellent Christian counsel and friends. The Lord is turning me into the Man, Husband, Father, Prayer Warrior, Soul Winner, and Encourager He wants me to be.

I understand what went wrong in our marriage, the role I played, my wife played, our family of influence played, Satan played, and how God's hand is in it all and will bring something beautiful from the ashes in me and my wife.

If reconciliation never happens I will accept that as God's will and continue to praise Him for the marvelous changes He is making in my life. I love my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ with all my heart and soul. I love His Word and desire to be totally obedient to it. I am also praying that God will reveal any wicked way that still resides in me, as well as any unconfessed sin I may not be aware of.

It is no longer my life but Christs life in me Gal 2:20. May God receive all the praise, honour, and glory for the marvelous work He is doing in me, and continue to make me a blessing to everyone I come in contact with. Praise the Lord!