Hey all, Ive just recently Found out about W affair via Cell phone Bill alot of numbers started repeating and the calls lasted for more then 20-30 min at a time, anyways called her on it she replies what do you think?anyways this phone/email thing has lasted for more then 5 months Ive backtracked both Verizon/alltel bills.
Anyways when we had the "Talk" she regreted going this route but "I" wasnt paying attention to her needs or wants.That Her Being a Nurse Takes care of people but that I wasnt Taking care of her at Home. Ive been recently been diagnosed with sleep apnia because of my wieght which my Doctor says is the reason for me being tired, granted there was no interest in sex for awhile, B4 I found out the affair we would have sex 2-3 times a week but unfortunately I Had a problem with premature EJC. I would have to satisfy her Orally 2 out of 3 Times which nade me feel worse Because "I" couldnt last . I was willing to go see a specialist but the affair was allready in gear {me not knowing this} So my Question is Is this an sexual affair with OM? They communicate via email that they will get through this rough ride ahead and Live Happily together..So what im asking is Should "I" being in the state of Ohio Take the House Take the 3 children and have her pay support? It will be rough I know But im willing to do what is right for the Children..
Mike in Toledo

Hey Mike,

I'm deeply saddened to see another one on MBdue to some level of infidelity. At least you're here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .

Search aroundto read about what MB is all about! You'll find many answers to the questions you have. Also, contiune to post threads, as you will find tremendous advice borne out of others pains and struggles to be beneficial to you, whether you like the advice or not!

Also, I'm sorry to hear about your medical condition(s). As a man, I'm certain your ego is bruised because of them.

Question: Do you know what your W's top 3 EN's (emotional needs) are? Is sf (sexual fulfillment)?

She's having dialogue with you, and expressed to you that her needs ARE NOT being met. My suggestion is Print off 2 copies of ENQ. Ask W to participate in this excercise, through a series of q's, you will determine what each of you hold as your "prized" EN's.
This will be a beginning of dialogue that can open the door to satisfying her top 3 EN's! You may also discover that you have EN's not being met by her!

Best Wishes...let us know how you DO!

In Christ's Name!
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Where can I find this ENQ to print out?

Also to go with my above topic W also stated "we share no common interest's anymore" I think The 3 children count don't they?
Sure Ill admit sometimes in the past when we would go out for a Husband /Wife Date away from the kids IE..Movie/Dinner the conversations were dull, Mostly about her work Being that she is in the Medical field, she has alot going on where I as am in the plastics Manufacturing field. I was in aviation maintanance but that fell through with alot of airlines Laying off years ago. So am I failure didnt I live up to her "Expectations"? anyways If I can find and print up those ENQ's I will but it'll take alot for her to sit down she wont even go with me to Counseling.

Mike,
Sorry to hear of your pain.

Your wife,s boyfriend is married. It,s too soon to tell if he would really leave his family to make a life with your wife. And if he did, there are so many reasons why their so called 'love' for eachother would quickly fizzle if they had their chance.
Do you feel that you have the strength to ride it out to see? Divorce is so final. You both married young and she may easily come back around after this runs it's course. Very, very few affairs ever end 'happily ever after'.
Time is on your side if you have the time.