I'll try to keep this as short as possible.

In May, 2002, I graduated law school. Two days later, my wife told me she wanted a divorce. She also told me she hoped we would be able to reconcile. The divorce was final in August, 2002.

Since August, she has began dating another man. She has told me she no longer wants to reconcile because she is happier than she can ever remember.

I admit, I've tried dating, but I really don't think I'm ready. I compare every woman to my ex, and they just don't measure up.

We have a four year old son, who cries when I leave him after my weekends. My ex is somehow surprised by this, despite the fact I was the primary caregiver. The three of us will soon begin counseling in order to help our son adjust.

Although I know it is against the odds, I pray that this could be the start of reconciliation. Should I continue to do this, or should I just "move on?"

Welcome to MB!!!

Back up some and go read all the info that you can here. Learn from everything that is here.

There is hope!!! Always!!!

Look at Plan A and read everything that you can, Plan A is for you to become a better you. Which in hope will be more attractive to you xW. Remember though that plan A is about you and not reconciling with your wife.

Do what ever and everything to help your son deal with this, be as nice as you need to be with xW so that you can remain friendly for your sons sake!

There is probably m ore action over on GQII forum here at MB and you will get more input then here probably.

Best of luck to you and welcome!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Timbo.....daybreak said it all. Never give up hope. You are doing the right thing. Ask God what he wants you to do and follow what he lays on your heart. I know what you are feeling. I have asked God what he wanted me to do many times over the last year and every time He has told me to wait and be patient and he will work it out.

Come join our prayer group on Weds. We would love to have you join us and watch another marriage be restored.

Luke 1:37 - For with GOD, nothing is impossible

Love in Christ
cajunky

Tim

First, congratulations on getting your law degree. This must have especially tough raising a child while having marital difficulties. Very impressive.

If you have hope you can reconcile with your ex-wife then by all means try to get back with her if that is what you think will make you happy.

Coming here and reading the Harley philosophy and reading what works and doesn't work in relationships and marriages perhaps will give you the tools you need for a positive reconciliation.

If it doesn't work out on the second try with your wife at least you will have a solid foundation to build from in any future relationships and will be a much better person for it.

Do what you need to do for you and your child. I hope things work out for all of you and that you enjoy the happiness and serenity that a well-lived life can bring.

cajunky,

Is there a special forum for the prayer group? I would like more info, because I'm a huge believer in the power of prayer.

No....I have started it here on this forum. It is "Restoration of Marriages Prayer Group". Lupolady helps with it for the woman. Come take a look.

Love in Christ
cajunky

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