You are not going to believe what just happened. I got a phone call from the guy my wife is engaged to and he told me the engagement was off. He told me a couple details and said that she was actually hindering him from his job and said he was stepping out of the picture. Needless to say I sat down on the floor and cried and thanked GOD for this. My mom and dad were overjoyed. They love my wife so much and want her back in our life.

I don't want my wife to hurt anymore so it saddens me to know she is but at the same time I am glad this has happened so God can restore our family.
I am not a horoscope person but I read mine on December 31 and this is what it said. "Regardless of the changes you face, the new year promises to give back what you have worked so hard to acquire".

My wife and I still have a long and uncertain road to travel but God will pull us through it.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Love in Crist
cajunky

<small>[ January 02, 2003, 03:31 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Another praise. Two in two days. Great! I am so happy for you.

Sounds like this guy was decent enough to maybe allow you a break you needed. You might have not known the engagement was broken off for some time and it does take a man to call another man.

Prayers for reconciliation here! You can do it!

I hope this works out for you. Have you tried the Prayer of Jabez? Ask God for his blessings - he's just waiting for us to tell him what we want.

Thats Great!!

What this means now is she is broken, especially if he called it off. What an opportunity to be there for her plus he told you inside info, what a blessing. I'm glad the guy is gone and that free's your kid from the threat of taking a beat down from that guy.

God IS AWESOME, caj!

I know this is sooo premature, but keep us posted!

Your W is in my prayers as now she has to re-evaluate her life and perhaps the Lord will open her up enough to let her see the wonders he's been working in her life! May the Holy Spirit fill her soul and guide her to 'new' great heights.

I'm very happy to hear teh joy in your words!

In Christ's Name!
><><>< BIG CG's for you guys!

That is good new Caj, but just be careful. I can see a very hurtful time for you in the future. I mean, prepare for the worst, because although I believe in God, I also believe that what he wants and what you want is not always the same thing. We have to be careful when we get a little of what we want, because we can see more there than really is.

I hope the best for you. I truly do. But I don't want you to be crushed should the best not turn out to be what you want at this time. I hope and pray that your life is filled and wonderful, but I also hope that you don't set yourself up for being crushed once again.

Take care and be open, but guard your heart and use your head.

Cajunky,

That is great news. Just continue to trust in God and He will definitely see you through. He will "restore the years the locusts have eaten". And you will see that "the end of a thing is better than the beginning". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

God Bless You,
relady

Formerly Confused.....I am not getting to excited. I know this means nothing as far as me and her go right now but it opens the door again. I agree what God wants and what we want are not always the same but if he is listening to me and my kids prayers we will be a family again.

Thanks for bringing me back down to earth a little bit and letting me see things may not be good yet. I know if she wants to try again it will take lots of pain staking work but I am up to the challenge.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Cajunky.

How AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PRAISE OUR WONDERFUL GOD!!!! \o/

I pray for all of us, that we will have a PRAISE REPORT to give to each other to help sustain us - every single day of this new year.

THANK YOU, OUR GOOD GOD.

THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU,LORD THANK YOU,LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU,LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU,LORD THANK YOU,LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU,LORD THANK YOU, LORD THANK YOU, LORD

I just can't stop saying THANK YOU, LORD!!!!!!!!!!!

Remember, "Faith is being sure of what we hope for, certain of we do not see." (Heb 11:1, NIV)
If we have Faith that God is going to answer our prayers, then we shouldn't really be too shocked when He begins to work to bring about the desired results! Just have to continue to Praise Him, as this shows we believe HE IS WORKING ON OUR BEHALF, even when we don't know it.

God Bless you all.

Cajunky,

I am so pleased to hear that the Lord is moving in so many positive directions for you.

You have come a long way, and I'm sure the Lord will continue to Bless you as you continue the path he has chosen for you to take.

You are truly an inspiration for all of us to see.

Keep up the good work

Blessings and continued prayers for you.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

I have faith in your ability. And I have faith in God. I have just learned that it also requires the other person's input and desire as well. Regardless of what I want and can do, and what God wants.

I feel that God helps things along, but probably doesn't make a habit of directly interfering in our lives. I mean that he allows for situations to be experienced and that allows our free will to be our action.

I know that he wants families together. And I absolutely believe that he could make each and every family happy together. But he does not. He has a different way of viewing us, and our ultimate goals are not always his. He strives for wholeness in him. Not wholeness in our world.

I am happy for the news and I pray that it works in your family's favor. Just watch yourself. You are worth it.

cajunky,

P R A I S E T H E L O R D ! ! !

I've said it before and I'll say it again.... It is so inspiring to see God's hand moving in someone's life. You and your family are always in my prayers as you know.

Hopefully you will see more of your "W" and that will allow her to see the man God is making you to be.

May He continue to guide you and your W back to that path you both started out on long ago.

More blessing on you.

S&C

Cajunky,
This is wonderful! I have watched your posts and how your faith is so steadfast in the Lord.
It is a happy day when good things happen to good people. Yes, praise the Lord! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I talked to my wife tonite and told her I knew she was hurting but I just wanted to let her know I was here for her. She told me she is the one that broke it off. She said he has plans and there is much more to it than I know.

I was just praising God it was her that actually broke it off. I pray that God will work in both of us and restore our marriage.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ January 02, 2003, 10:15 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

cajunky, I just had to add my good thoughts to your thread. I'm so happy for you that things have taken a positive turn. Just try to have patience and remember who's driving the bus!

Hi Cajunky,

I know you are excited and feel a prayer was answered and that's good. I saw female friend break of an engagement and this is how it went...It was a 6 month process.

For starters

God revealed it was not right. She broke it off, stayed away from him for 2 months, they missed each other, she got back together with him thinking she could fix the issue through persuasion, God steps in again her eyes open more to who the guy is, she breaks communication again, he's crying writting her letters, she begins to tell him she can't cross the line God set between them, the guy begins to tell her what he don't like about her and that she needs to change, she then feels bad, considered going back, she then talks to her cousin, cousin advises her it won't work, now she looks back and says it was all a fantasy of in love with the idea of being married but not actually having any foundation in the relationship to keep a marriage she says it would have ended in DV very quickly, she says God spared her some life long pain, she says the short term pain to end the engagement was better.

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So what I'm saying in all this, is that your exw will be going through a process, be careful not to get hurt in the crossfire, don't expect affection from her,they will still be friends for some time, her heart is not toward you but can turn toward you, she's going to have withdrawls and feelings of wanting to return to him at times, she needs to heal from when you guys were married, now she needs to heal from the break off of this engagement.

I saw this withdrawl happen with me also, in our last counseling session, exww said she knew all the relationships were wrong and needed to end, cried in my arms, then a few days later she got plane tickets to go visit 2 of OM's and bought one clothes. You would have thought after all that she was going to want to put our relationship back together immediately, but she was still addicted to OM's....Breaking totally away is a process of time and change of the heart. It wasn't until 5 months later she started thinking of putting it back together.

Stay encouraged, your exw's journey will be from the inside out, don't be discouraged by the expressions on her face and negative actions towards you, she's numb. She has find what she see's in you all over again which will be a period of nothing.

God is moving but in his own way and time.

Thanks for the kind encouragement everyone.

Everlasting.....I know what you are saying and I am prepared to do and not do anything. I know if my wife is going to want me again it will be a very slow process and I would not want it any other way. I want her to be sure that she is ready to give it 110% on putting our marriage back when she decides.

You would have laughed at my mom when I told her. She loves my wife very much and she started recalling times they have had together. She left for work and she called from her cell phone and wanted to invite my wife out for family dinner that nite at our favorite mexican restaurant in town. I had to calm her down and tell her to slow way down.

Just keep praying that this will be total restoration.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Yaaaaahooooooo!! (that's an Alberta yipee!)
God is soooo good! All the time!
I am so thrilled to hear that answer to prayer, and like some others have said, don't get overly excited, but it's ok to get somewhat happy! I would have done the same thing, sat and wept!
I have such a good feeling about you and your wife Caj, God is going to do miracles I know it!
In His time! God Bless you, SW

Still waiting, I read your signature. Have you been been waiting 6 years? Have you dated since?
Are you divorced and do you still see ex?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Have you been been waiting 6 years? Have you dated since?
Are you divorced and do you still see ex?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi Smileysmile, the answers are 7 years now, no, no and no!
I know there is alot more to answer then that, but I will have to do it this afternoon, I'm just on my way to church, I'll write as soon as I get home!
God Bless! SW