HELLO~<BR> I AM WRITTING BECAUSE I FEEL ANGRY AT MY BOYFRIENDS EX WIFE HE HAS TWO CHILDREN WITH HER AND SHE KNOWS ALL SHE HAS TO DO IS CALL AND HE WILL BOW DOWN TO HER SHE LEFT HIM OVER AN AFFAIR WITH A MARRIED MAN SHE HAS BEEN WITH THIS MARRIED MAN NOW FOR 6 YEARS THEY DONT LIVE TOGETER JUST HE SHOWS UP WHEN HE CAN AND THEY HAVE BEEN DIVORCED NOW FOR THREE YEARS BUT I HAVE LOST CONTROL OVER MY WEEKENDS BECAUSE EVERY WEEKEND IS DEDICATED TO HIS KIDS I FEEL SO UNIMPORTANT RIGHT NOW I FIND I CRY ALOT AND WHEN I SAY GEEZ HON HOW ABOUT IF WE GO OUR HE HAS NO ENERGY BUT HE HAS PLENTY TO BE A GREAT DAD AND I DONT HOLD THAT AGAINST HIM HE SHOULD BE THERE FOR HIS KIDS HOWEVER I JUST THINK THAT INEED SOME KIND OF ANSWERS IN LEARNING TO DEAL WITH THAT FACT THAT HIS EX WIFE THINKS SHE IS PRIORITY AND SHE ONLY THINKS OF HER SELF HOWCOME SHE CANT CALL US AND ASK US IF WE COULD DO THIS THAT OR THE OTHER FOR THE KIDS WE HAVE THEM EVERY WEEKEND PLEASE HELP ME I AM AT THE END OF MY ROPE AND MY BOYFRIEND IS WONDERFULL HE I TRUELY IS A WONDERFULL PERSON AM I JUST JEALOUS IS THIS MY WAY OF SAYING I WANT CONTROL OVER WHAT HE DOES IT ISNT FAIR IF I DO THAT TO HIM ANY SUGGESTIONS <P>------------------<BR>Ms. Kate

I feel you have every reason to be upset. There needs to be a compromise for you & your boyfriend. It is not fair that u can not plan for something over the weekend. This is not jealousy, but a need to have some quality time for yourselves. If both of you work, most likely the only time you can really do anything is on the weekend. Talk this over with your boyfriend, and see if there could be some other alternatives to spend some time with his kids. Maybe take them out during the week for a couple of hours to a favorite place, or take them to some of their activities. Like if one does soccer, or something, go take the kids instead of the ex. That way your boyfriend can still spend time with his kids. And hopefully you can get some weekends to yourselves.