Hello,<P>I'm new at this, but here we go. I've been married for 4 years. We had a very rough start to begin with. I was 7 months pregnant when we got married. We were only together for 2 months when I got pregnant. Yes it was an oops, but I would not give my son up for the world. Anyway, 2 month before we got married, we found out that he was diabetic. So, I had this to deal with too. If anyone knows anything about the disease, you know that along with it comes a lot of problems including BAD mood swings. <BR>Now we somewhat have them under control, but there are a lot of other problems. One being he doesn't want to bother with me. Sex 3 times a month is alot. Now, understand he is 6 years older than me, so could that be a problem? He's 31 and I'm 24. I love him dearly, but since I don't get the attention that I so desperately crave, I've found myself becoming interested in one of the single teachers at the school I work at. No, I haven't talked to him at all yet, but he's looking more tempting everyday. Please give some advice before I do something I might regret!!

I don't know a lot about diabetes, even though my Dad has it big-time. He has to take shots and have emergency stuff in his pockets, and all that. His is the worst case I have ever seen.<BR>Any disease, sickness, or illness can cause mood-swings...<P>Your husband's age? That ain't it. . . You know men way past 31 usually wanna have sex. Maybe his diabetes affects that, somehow.<P>It's not fair for me to guess what might be the problem.<P>But I'll guarantee this one thing, you already know of ONE problem you can fix/prevent! You said it yourself, "Please give some advice before I do something I might regret"<P>I have just been beside myself for years wishing just that my wife would do this, that and the other, and give this that and the other kind of attention. I've tried to get her to just participate in life with me. That's not just sex, but the whole gamut of things. It makes you feel trapped and destined to never know fulfilment.<P>If you want to make your marriage become fulfilling, then go to your marriage for fulfilment. Even if you don't get it right away, or even for years. As sure as can be, if you go out and do something you'll regret, then you'll regret it.<P>If there's no other major reproach in your marriage then adultery would be one. If the single guy you are watching gives you a thrill that your husband doesn't, then you'll be set farther from your husband than you are now. If your husband finds out, then he'll have that against you. It'd be a great way to load his guns if he ever wants to have something over on you.<P>If a husband or wife in any marriage is unfulfilled (where their needs are reasonable) then that unfulfilment is the spouse's own sin of omission. And that's sad.<P>. . . but there is no excuse, justification, or rationalization for infidelity. Ever.<P>Be good.<BR>If it seems to profit you little in terms of reward and fulfilment. . . that may be for a little while, or for a long while. But if you honor your own values, then you won't give up that part of yourself.

Hi Lonelygirl,<P>I was young and pregnant when I got married. We had out share of issues to deal with also. It's hard to start out with a child. You just don't get that much time to adjust to the change of being married and living together. That is why people like us have to work really hard at making it work. For whatever reason you got married you owe it to your husband to allow him to meet your needs first and him to meet yours. My husband and I didn't have the tools to do that for years. We were young, etc... Since my husband and I have read Dr. Harley's books and are working through the workbook, we can now see hope. We know that if we do the things that Dr. Harley recommends that we will fall in love with eachother. You owe it to your husband to let him know how you feel and get him involved in doing something about it. Start with the His Needs/Her Needs book. You can read the basic concepts on this website. <P>DO NOT entertain the idea of this teacher. Just steer clear of him. If you go down that road you will bring so much pain into your life. No matter how lonely you are you will regret having a relationship outside of your marriage forever if you do that. Check the infedelity boards on this website if you would like a preview of the pain and destruction that affairs bring. Your child deserves a happy home. Do everything in your power to make it that way. There is alot of good help on this forum. Read up and come here for support.<P>cleo