It is one week until my mediation and although I am dreading it at the same time, I am counting the days. I am hoping that once the mediation is over with, my stbx will move out.

He is constantly on my back about everything. Today, when my stbx went into the garage to get something, our 16 month old son followed him and was standing by the door and when my stbx opened the door to come back in, (you guessed it) Jared fell onto the garage floor. Well my stbx yelled at me for not watching him closely enough. I was watching him but Jared is a toddler and roams all over the house. I feel that my stbx should have opened the door slightly to see if he was there before coming in. Unfortunately he didn't see it that way. Btw, Jared was fine. Screamed for a minute but then stopped.

Then when I was feeding the baby lunch, the baby threw one of the baby food jars onto the floor and glass flew all over the place. Again, my stbx blamed me because he said I should have placed the jars elsewhere.

These things only happen with me, although when my stbx was watching him, Jared took an ashtrey his grandmother had given us and threw it onto the floor but of course, stbx didn't even care about that.

I can't stand him anymore. Until he leaves, how can I deal with this? He keeps saying that I have no supervision skills and a bad parent.

"I can't stand him anymore. Until he leaves, how can I deal with this? He keeps saying that I have no supervision skills and a bad parent. " I feel the same way about my h and he tries to say similiar things to me. So I hope you dont believe him he is just trying to hurt you! What keeps me sane lately is that my h's work shift changed to nights so I can minimize contact w/ him by going to bed early and leaving early to work. Plus not answering the phone when he calls ..if he has something important to say he can leave a message.

b,

Just stay focused, it's not much longer. He may blame you (that is so typical) but you can be like teflon and not let it stick to you.

The only thing for you to do is ask yourself, is there any truth to what he is saying? Am I a reasonably attentive Mom? If so then let it go. If not, do something about it, but not for him but cuz it's the right thing to do.

Blame only keeps a person stuck. Taking responsibility for oneself is growth.

God Bless,

D.

This is verbal abuse, and he's using it to control you and to shatter your self-esteem. Don't buy into it. Stay strong. It's all he knows. He doesn't know how to be a good person to you.
I suggest you read "the verbally abusive relationship" by patricia evans. You'll probably find his other behaviors described there too.
God bless you and your son.

Keep your wits. Read as much as you can. He is a controller. Like my stbx. Mine verbally and mentally as well as occasionally physically abused me. I am an attractive woman who isn't stick thin, but a good figure. And like he used to do, he emails me and I open it today and it says and alludes to that I should get into better physical condition and maybe a new guy would want me.

Don't buy into it. Mine used to say what a wonderful mother I was. Now he can't say enough bad things and would blow up out of proportion, waaay outta proportion any minor thing that could happen. Never mind this man took his son to Disneyworld last year with his son AND HIS MISTRESS. Never mind his NEW MISTRESS ALLOWS HER SON TO SPEND THE NIGHT TOO, ALONG WITH HER AND LETS HER SON SPEND THE NIGHT IN SAME ROOM WITH OUR SON. And I don't even see what goes on in Deuecy's house. Son told me of how he has fallen down, etc. That is normal stuff. Stuff my stbx is doing like with his women, isn't normal.

Keep your focus. He is blowing smoke. It is hard I know. So hard, mine keeps on doing that. Just remember, he is throwing a temper tantrum. Limit your time with him.

Hi B,

Listen to these people. He is trying to bring you down. Are you still in counseling?