Some of you don't know what I have been through in the past, here is something I clipped from one of my posts over 1 year or more ago.

Here is my situation--

1999--Letter from unknown saying H is having an affair
--H works late, comes home drunk, lies about where he has been, and so on.

2000--H works late, doesn't include me in anything
---Followed H lied about where he was and how long he was there I am following him in my car,
2001--went for my Bday weekend w/some neighbors, H talked to neighbors wife the whole time, not joking either.

2001--H goes on a business trip says he is driving w/some other guys at his work. 5hour drive, found out H is driving w/another woman from work alone.
2001--H says he cannot come home early because he has too much work to do, find out he was at a party at his Bosses house for 5 hours came home drunk.
2001--H sent me to see a friend in another state, partys all weekend w/friends. Find out that he had some woman from work stay the night and watch the kids. He didn't tell me.

2001--H went out of town to see a friend w/another friend to a Super Bowl party. H never calls me, I call him 2 hours before his plane lands and he says, we are not going to make it. Found out they went to Mexico. Came home the next day!!

These are just the major ones. H denies any wrong doing, and just walks away. It is all lies we have talked about this over and over. I keep giving him chances and he just walks all over me every time!!!

My mom thinks I should set some boundries, I have tried but he doesn't really listen to me. He does what he wants.

What do I need to do?? We have tried counseling didnt work for him!!!!

WOW, does that ever bring back awful memories. I lived with my ex-hubby for 2-1/2 years, and was married to him for 8-1/2 years, total of 11 years. He did exactly the same thing, thought it was his right to do what he wanted. I separated and filed for divorce at least 4 times, well the last time i went thru with it. Been divorced since Sept. 2001, and have never been happier. Don't know why i thought that bad about myself, that i would have put up with it that long.
My family use to say, "why do you put up with it, just tell him not to go to ....... wherever. Well, that didn't work, he did what he wanted to, so i just quite arguing with him. By then, it had got to the point that i didn't want him at home, and didn't really care anymore

Well, he is now in a relationship with another woman, and has been since 5 months after our divorce. I feel nothing but "pitty" for her, because what i have heard, he still cheats on her with other women, even though she thinks the relationship is serious. He is doing to her, the same things he did to me. He will NEVER change!!

I am just going by my experience - i would NEVER<EVER put up with that nonscense again, from anyone.

I finally have some peace in my life <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />