Well, things are getting worst.. We had words last night and he's doing the "i won't talk to you" bs now.. If you read my other entry you saw this is over SEX.. yes SEX He just doesn't understand i don't feel the desire anymore .. I can't explain it ..I talked to experts they say it's hormonal.. but for it to be lasting soo long.. it's killing my marriage..He thinks i need counsilling or medication maybe i do i donno but i can't deal with this he makes me feel like i'm the b* and whatever i say to explain my feelings means nothing... I read the introductory info from the doctor on this site and i think maybe we're having deeper problems than just my lasck of sexual desire but i just can't pin point it.. anyone been here before.. ??? <P>------------------<BR>TY:::::: Dizz =]~

Dizz, <P>The same thing happened to me!<BR>We went round and round over this. It wasn't that I wanted to be with anyone else because I didn't. I actually found my H attractive and wanted to be around him all the time. I just had no interest in sex. He even suggested that I go see a doctor because of it. I never did. I was too chicken. <BR>I turned him down more often than not. This made him feel very rejected and he started to harbor resentments. I didn't feel that I was rejecting him. I just had no desire for sex. I actually tried to explain this to him. He tried to explain how important sex was to him but I never got it. Couldn't understand that men really feel love this way. In fact, it is usually thier #1 or #2 need. I did give in every now and then like you but would also wonder when it was going to be over. This was very hurtful for him.<BR>I don;t know what happened but around the time I turned 31 things my desire started to return. <P>From experience, I can say that I was dead tired from taking care of the kids and all that other stuff that goes with it every night. I would be ready to fall asleep by 9. I also felt distanced emotionally from him and felt that he was using me for sex only. I know now that it was just his way of feeling loved and that it is one of his most important needs. There could be a number of factors for you. It could be the kids, hormones or lack of emotional intimacy. Try to narrow it down. In the meantime see if the two of you can schedule time to be alone. Let him know what you need from him emotionally. If he can fill those needs it may spark some desire. Keep communicating with him about how you feel. Try to reach an agreement on how many times per week at first. Then when its time, try real hard to meet his need. Don't let him know that you arent't that thrilled. You may end up liking it more than you thought. this is what happened to me.<P>I hope that helps a little.