My wife of 10 years suddenly left the marriage almost 5 months ago. Ever since I have been dealing with hurt, confusion, anger, and a wide range of emotions. I have made several attempts to meet with my wife face to face and get some staisfying answers as to why?? but at no avail. She has left me stranded more than once. I also asked her if we can go to counseling, and after numerous attempts, she agreed, but then she only attended one session and never showed up again.

I never claimed to be a perfect husband, nor that our marriage was flauless. But I can't understand how a wife and a mother of a 6 years old child can take such drastic measure with out any consideration to anyone else.

I know there is no affair involved. She has been batteling with issue from her past before she even met me. These issues finally caught up to her. She was married to an abusive husband and went through alot with him, but never dealt with this issue at a professional level. Ironically, I became the abused in the marriage. Anywhere from verbal to finally physical for the first time (6 months before she left). I was very stressed and disappointed. Yet I wanted to honor our commitment to God, and to preserve the marriage for the sake of my child. But still that did not help. My wife and I are believers, yet she is refusing to accept the word of God in regards to divorce and separation. She has filed, and I am contesting it and asked the court to order a marriage counseling, but I know this is not how marriage counseling should be approached. Yet I want some answers.

I am extremely hurt over this. The holidays were the worst to deal with. I have treated my wife with nothing but love and respect, yet she is using petty excuses, things that can be worked out. I do not understand it.

I am looking for advise and support. I trust the LORD and know that He will turn this for the good.

In christ,

AA