I just got done reading the thread about the cost of divorce. I am a woman, unemployed, wanting to divorce my husband. I have 2 kids. I have a little money of my own, not much. My husband has become abusive (not physically, but, the verbal abuse lately has been enough for me, thank you) and I can't stand to be around him. He is currently being extremely nice but, it's over for me....we have had problems for a very long time and despite my efforts to work on the marriage, this is the last straw.
But, how in the heck can I possibly get out of this? I have nowhere to go, no money, no job and he is not going to co-operate in a divorce, I can guarantee that. (In our most recent fight, he, at first told me to get out, he wanted a divorce...was going to throw me out of the house with just the clothes on my back, but then he changed his mind and begged me not to leave....I am sure he has cheated on me and is feeling guilty, which is why he is acting so weird).
I thought of getting a job first before making any moves, but, is that wise? Maybe I should seek legal aid as is? That way, he will have to to deal with it all....I have been a stay-at-home-mom for several years, while he has worked out of town most of that time, during which I am PRETTY sure he has messed around and I am ABSOLUTELY sure he was out partying, etc. while I ran the home and went through MUCH emotional turmoil with NO support from him.....he neglected me, and has for years.
Any advice??
