Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

Right now we are doing "POWER of a Praying Husband" for the men and "Power of a Praying Wife" for the ladies. You can use this as your prayer or have your own or combine them.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home),WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery),Againstthewind(Got job), Free ( Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family)

Love in Christ
Cajunky

I have started studying the book of Romans and I came across one of my favorite scriptures that I have adopted this pass year.

Romans 5:3-4 Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.

I have a life application study bible and at the bottom it says this:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> We rejoice in suffering not because we like pain or deny its tragedy, but because we know God is using life's difficulties and Satan's attacks to build our character. The problems that we run into will develop our perseverance - which in turn will strengthen our character, deepen our trust in God, and give us greater confidence about the future. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you think about it Gods ultimate goal for our life on earth is not comfort, but character developement.

Love in Christ
cajunky

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home),WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery),Againstthewind(Got job), Free ( Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family) </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">How I love to see that list get bigger and bigger, lets pray for it to double this month! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
God Bless, SW

I need lots of prayers. I want my husband to speak to me. It is too hard to live in the same house and have no communications except to scream, say I'm not wanted, that I make his miserable, he wants out, etc.. I pray that got will give me strength to hold on and fight for my marriage. I pray that God will speak to him and clear his mind. I pray that we will tale this weekend, and that he will not seek and Attorney on Monday like he has planned. I am scared and terrified. My Grandfather needs prayers, he is in the hospital. I feel like the world is falling around me. I need strength to be sane. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers and I will do the same for the rest.

I got this in my mail today from rejoice ministries.

Stillwaiting......I thought about you when I read the first one.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> SATURDAY PRAISES

"Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearch-
able things you do not know." Jeremiah 33:3

An old gospel hymn by Stuart Hamblin says, "It is no secret what God
can do. What He's done for others, he'll do for you." We rejoice
over what God has done for these families in this sample of praise
reports received this week by Rejoice Marriage Ministries:

- - -
"My husband and I were separated for almost two years and now he has
been back home for six months. We just bought a brand new home and he
is in church like never before and I owe all the glory and honor to my
Father which is in heaven. I remember the Lord telling me to be still,
and in my being still he worked everything out better than I expected.
My husband's mother and father who had been separated got back toget-
her after 22 years of being apart and are doing great." (Texas)
- - -
"I was notified by the government that our divorce papers became
official, but my wife and I have kept in touch. She called me out of
the blue shortly after New Year's to wish me a happy New Year, and is
open to attending a farewell party with me at my place for some mutual
friends." (Canada)
- - -
"My husband brought us a ham and a turkey two weeks before Christmas.
He called on Christmas day and New Year's day to wish us Merry Christ-
mas and Happy New year. I have the faith that I will see him back in
this house. I continue to stand and pray for my spouse and our marr-
iage restoration. Thank the Lord and praise to His name." (St. Lucia)
- - -
"This (specific Charlyne Cares) helped me so much. Gave me more under-
standing in my stand for my marriage. Last night I ran into a girl
that went to school with (my husband) and was in our wedding. Every-
thing was negative. I got into the car and the Lord spoke to me and I
repented for not standing up for (husband). When I went and picked up
the mail there was a letter from Rejoice Marriage Ministries and a
tape titled ‘Never Give Up On Your Marriage." (Oklahoma)
- - -
"For the first time in over eight years my prodigal had Christmas
Dinner with me and our family. It was a very enjoyable day covered
with the peace of God." (Canada)
- - -
"My husband told me he would never be coming home. All of sudden he
decided he did want to be with me and make it work. Praise God. He
moved back home in June. The Lord has curtailed his drinking, there
is no gambling, and we both are going to church together. All things
are possible with our Father." (Virginia)
- - -
"My husband has called me almost every day since Christmas. We go and
have coffee at one of the coffee shops almost every day. He said that
he couldn't imagine me not in his life, but only as a friend. God has
gotten (my husband) this far. I know that God can get him all the way
home. Thank You, Father. Praise You, Lord." (Tennessee)
- - -
"For several months, I took off my wedding ring. The Lord had been
telling me to put in on, but in disobedience, I didn't. I heard the
Lord say to me, ‘If you know and love me and don't listen to me, how
can you expect your husband to?' So, out of obedience, I placed the
ring on my finger. The next day, I read on Charlyne Cares, about
putting the ring on as preparation for the return of your spouse and
I knew that God was speaking to me." (New York)
- - -
"On Christmas Eve my wife told me she was going to church and that I
was welcome to join her. I asked her to come to my house in the
morning to open presents. We intertwined hands in church to pray.
(On Christmas) she cooked the first Christmas breakfast we had
together in five years. We took pictures and video of breakfast and
present opening." (Colorado)
- - -
"I was sitting by my bed, when the Lord told me to open up the Bible.
I was led to Isaiah 65, which says, ‘The LORD says, ‘People who never
before inquired about me are now asking about me. I am being found by
people who were not looking for me. To them I have said, 'I am here!'
I opened my arms to my own people all day long, but they have rebelled.
They follow their own evil paths and thoughts. I stared at the page,
knowing that God was telling me that he was going after my prodigal.
At that very moment, the phone rang, and it was my spouse. He was
pleasant. Praise the Lord. I had been praying that the lines of
communication would be opened and that his heart would begin to soften
toward me. I just can't see it, but believe, by faith, that (God) is
moving the mountain." (New York)
- - -
"I have been going to a Christian counselor and (my husband) went with
me a few times earlier in the year. The counselor gave me the wonder-
ful news that my husband had met with him earlier that day. He wants
to come home and get help for his problems. He is breaking his ties
with the other person this weekend." (California)
- - -
"I have been praying and standing for the restoration of my marriage.
I have never taken my wedding band off and in spite of lots of advice
from people, I was waiting for a miracle. (My husband) is not a
Christian and I am waiting for that miracle too. God also has worked
so much in my life since my husband has been gone. I was able to buy
a condo on my own. The children are attending a public school where
they are getting the instructional support they need in reading and
language arts. I have grown so much in my faith that people ask me,
‘Something is different with you, what is it?' When things seem
impossible is when God is working the hardest." (California)
- - -
"This morning (my husband) asked if I would be willing to ask the
lawyer to hold our final divorce papers instead of filing them with
the judge tomorrow as planned. He hasn't asked to come home, but this
is an absolute miracle." (California)
- - -
"Twice in the past month, my husband has sent my folks a letter. Each
letter according to my mom is as if my husband is just stopping by to
chat, telling them all the latest that is going on with him. Praise
God that my husband is reconnecting to my family." (Florida)
- - -
"Honoring my stand, our son changed the officiating minister for his
wedding, from his Dad (prodigal husband and minister) to his own
minister, a living witness to what he preaches and teaches. I phoned
husband and asked if we could sit together in the service. Thank God,
we did sit together. Before the service, I asked husband if he would
walk me down the aisle, and he said yes. For photos, I asked if he
would stand with me, and I have two lovely photos of just the two of
us. Our God is good." (Australia)
- - -
"My husband is coming to visit after not seeing each other for over 8
months. Rejoice has been my pathway to the Lord's Word on Divorce, we
were certainly headed that way until coming up the Turnpike in Florida
going to a job interview I saw a billboard on Stop Divorce and I
called. That was the turning point for me, my attitude and the start
of my stand. Thanks to Bob and Charlyne, another marriage is being
healed God's way, and the world is slowly being blocked out of this
marriage!" (Florida)
- - -

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please donot pray for the restoration of my marriage as I would not take her back under any circumstances, ever, never, no way, not going to happen. Not that she is asking, because she is not.

Any prayers for my general well-being will be greatly appreciated, and I will pray for you all.

Thank you,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done:
<strong>please donot pray for the restoration of my marriage as I would not take her back under any circumstances, ever, never, no way, not going to happen. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Curious post, given your chosen screen name.

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HIS PRIORITIES
Men have many different ideas about what their priorities should be. But every wife feels she should be at the top of her H's list -- right there under God.

Priorities dont' always have to do with the total amount of time spent on them, otherwise anyone with a forty-hour work week would be putting God second to their job, unless he or she was praying at least eight hours a day. And there is no way a W can give as much time to her H as she does to a young child without neglecting the child. When it comes to your H, it;s not so much a matter of how much time you take, but that you DO take time to make him feel like he is a priority.

Just greeting him first thing in the morning with a smile and a hug can make him feel he's important to you. So is asking him, "Is ther eanything you want me to do for you today?" (And then when he tells you, remember to do it) Also, let him know you are praying for him and ask what he specifically wants you to pray about. Even checking in with him periodically in the midst of the many other things youare doing assures him he's still at the top of your list.

Priorities have to do with the position in the heart. Planning times for just the two of you, a date, a night or two away, a dinner alone, time in the home without any children or friends, communicates to him that he is a priority in your heart. If you want your H to love you more, you need to love him more. It always works, especially if you're praying about it as well.

If you feel that you just don't have the time and energy to put your H frist, and still do all that's expected of you, ask God for a fresh filling of His Holy SPirit. Seek Him first and He will help you get your priorities in order.

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PRAYER:
Lord, I proclaim You Lord over my life. Help me to seek You first every day and set my priorities to perfect order. Reveal to me how to properly put my H before children, work, family, friends, activities, and interests. Show me what I can do right now to demonstrate to him that he has this position in my heart. Mend the time I have caused him to doubt that. Tell me how to prioritize everything so that whatever steals life away, or has no lasting purpose, will not occupy my time.

I pray for my H's priorities to be in perfect order as well. Be Lord and Ruler over his heart. Help him to choose a simplicity of life that will allow him to have time alone with You, Lord, a place to be quiet to Your Word, and make prayer and praise a priority. Enable him to place me and our chldren in greater prominence in his heart than career, friends, and activities. I pray he will seek You first and submit his all to You, for when he does I know the other pieces of his life will fit together perfectly.
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SCRIPTURES:
MATTHEW 6:33
PHILIPPIANS 2:4
MATTHEW 6:24

Cajunky - could I put in another prayer. My shoulder is really in pain. PT said, going to have Dr. look at it. She feels I need another surgery. Looks like another torn muscle. YUCK!!! I have to see my lawyer tomorrow, I have to see my lawyer Tuesday, SNL will be there with his lawyer,to settle. Then we have court on 23 of Jan. Guess prayer didn't work to save this marriage and didn't work to save my arm from more surgery. CRAPPY LIFE!!

HER DELIVERANCE
Jan. 15

If woman are not positioned right in their relationship to the Lord, they never catch that wind of His Spirit that enables them to sail against the tide of their limitations and their circumstances and arrive at their destination. They keep coming back to the same pld places, and they never get free. But when they move with the Spirit of God, He never leaves them to wander around where they are, He moves us on to where we are supposed to be.

Whether it's something that happened 30 years ago or only as recently as yesterday, the past can keep us where we are if we if we don't pull up our anchor. God wants us to leave those old broken places behind so we can become whole people.

MOVING AWAY FROM HURTS OF THE PAST

No matter what your wife's past is, unless she has been able to step out of it, she won't be able to live successfully in the present or move to the future God has for her. Whatever hurt from the past that your wife has brought into your marriage wil affect the present and the future of the your life together. It could be something that someone said or did to her, or the trauma of things that happened to her, or something she did herself. Whatever it is, if it keeps her from having peace about the past, present or future of her life, then she needs to get free of it. And she needs your prayers to help her do that.

What she wants from you is to know you will continue to stand by her with love and support- even if you don't fully understand what she is feeling or going through. She needs your prayer covering her because it will "break the back" of the enemy and provide a place of protection while she heals.

THE NEED FOR FORGIVENESS

We can never sail smoothly out of our past and into the future God has for us without forgiveness. That's because our greatest hurts usually come from people. Pray for her to be delivered from the effects of them.

FINDING FREEDOM

The great thing about praying for your wife to get free is that you don't have to have all the answers. She's not expecting that anyway. God understands everything and has all the answers, so put HIM in charge. Your wife just wants to know that you will continue to love and support her when you see what she has been holding inside.Thats why opposites attract- they can complete each other.
When we are challenged by our mates problems it makes us stretch. Just remember how privileged you are to be an instrument of God's healing, and thank Him for allowing you to grow along with her.

DELIVERANCE PROCESS

Emotional hurts and bondage usually come off in layers. Thats why, even though your wife may have achieved a breakthrough in a certain area, the whole thing may come back with even greater force. It will appear to be the same old thing all over again, only worse this time. It just means that there are new layers of hurt or bondage that are coming to the surface for healing, and God is leading your wife into a deeper level of deliverance. Often the deepest layers are the most painful.

Things are the most difficult right before the biggest blessings is about to come forth. But Gods timing is perfect.

Pray that your wife can pull up the anchor from her past and allow the fresh, calm wind of the Holy Spirit to get her sailing smoothly where she needs to go.

PRAYER

God is good!

Here is another answered prayer <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am refinancing our mortgage to have a financial cushion and to bring down monthly expenses. We were approved, but had to pay off credit cards and other collection accounts. I had planned on paying mine, but only pay a portion of WH's. He also had collection accounts to be paid. I decided to go ahead with it, even though I would have very little cash to use as a cushion.

The mortgage Co needed payoff statements & when got the one from the collection account it was over $1000 more than what we were told when this whole process was started. It was in the hands of an attorney at this point.

Well, thank God the attorney has been slow to respond back to my request to send me a statement with the original balance. I called the debtor directly and asked for the statement. Here's the kicker - one account is already paid off with a ZERO balance!!!!! Yeah!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I just got the statement and passed it along to the mortgage co.

The attorney was just going to collect the money and NOT SAY ANYTHING <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

God is so good. In thanking Him, I had to say that yes Lord, I know that you will take care of me, I can have trust in Him. (I have to say that I have put WH ahead of God in matters of finance.)
God has shown me thru this AND A FEW OTHER THINGS that HE WILL TAKE CARE OF ME

gOD bLESS,

d.

<small>[ January 13, 2003, 02:04 PM: Message edited by: WillGetThruThis ]</small>

WGTT....I am so glad you had prayer answered. Just when we think we are really down God does something to let us know he is working for us.

Love in Christ
cajunky

To Cajunky and Lupolady
I really look forward to reading what is written on this site.

I have a problem with faith not believeing, first I will pray for a week or two then I'll stop. I have very little faith. I'm dealing with past and present hurts.

I'll tell myself, I will forgive, but I guess I don't know how. Please continue to pray for me. I do print out the prayers, I'll keep trying until I get it right.

I need a motivational prayer, healing, forgiviness prayer for me. Pray for my husband that he comes out of the fog, remove his guilt that keeps him bound and confused. He waivers what he feels for family and friend he worries how people see him and what they think. He also very easily decieved, people takes advantage of him.

Thank you so much for this much needed information.

Malc...I know how you feel. It is easy to look at our circumstances and think it is hopeless. I got this in my e-mail today and I was going to share it next week but God has laid it on my heart to share it with you right now. I hope it helps you like it did me.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">IS YOUR MARRIAGE HOPELESS?

Do you feel your marriage is "hopeless?" There are many people hoping
that their marriage will be restored, but are not willing to rebuild
their marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ. Many of you are
standing for your marriage, but do you really believe that God will
bring your spouse home! You need to hear from the Lord and then stand
forever waiting on God's promises!

Have you asked God to show you His will and plan for your marriage?
You need to go to the Lord. Seek the Lord with all your heart. Put
praise music on and worship your Lord, read the Word and wait for the
Lord's answers. Ask the Lord to show you answers that only He knows
and ask God's to show you strongly His direction for your marriage
restoration. Pray for God to show you a sign, give you a dream, or a
"rhema" Word as an additional confirmation. If you are His child, our
Heavenly Father loves you unconditionally and will talk to you about
all your circumstances and concerns! He has a plan and a purpose for
you and your marriage.

"Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him."
Psalm 62:5

"For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the Lord. "Plans
to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a
future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and
I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek
me with all your heart." Jeremiah 29:11-13

God's timing is not always pleasing to us. We are very impatient
people. We live in an instant society, full of microwaves and
drive-thru fast foods restaurants. I have learned since my standing
and growing in the Lord, God's timing is perfect and not one minute
early!! We Christians do not like this. In fact, we often grumble,
complain, mutter, and even give up on waiting for God's perfect gift
or promise because we are too impatient! God's timing is strategic
often to receive the fulfillment of God's promises. It never comes
early or late!

"But when the time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a
woman, born under law." Galatians 4:4

"Then the Lord replied: ‘Write down the revelation and make it
plain on tablets so that a herald may run with it. For the
revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and
will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will
certainly come and will not delay." Habakkuk 2:2-3

"And let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper
time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Galatians 6:9

Who are you listening to? The Lord or the enemy? The enemy is now
attacking you! Yes, the enemy is attacking your mind! The enemy is
trying to convince you that your marriage and all the circumstances
are hopeless! The enemy wants you give up on your marriage, to give
up on your spouse. STOP! What is God asking and telling you to do?
That is the most important secret to understanding what the Lord's
will is in your life. God does speak to us so many times, but often
we do not seek or hear His voice of directions! Start thinking about
how you found us or what songs do you keep hearing on the radio? What
is that small inner voice saying to you? Are you afraid to believe
that it is God's voice, not just your thoughts?

"I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order
that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches
of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably
great power for us who believe." Ephesians 1:18-19

All of us are afraid to trust and believe our Lord God for miracles.
We do not feel worthy. The enemy is always telling you how unworthy
you are and reminds you daily of all your past and present sins. We
need to remember that God is the General in charge of your entire
life. He is the head and you need to surrender everything to Him.
Join God's army and realize that it is not your reputation that is in
the balance, but God's reputation.

Nothing is hopeless with God. We need to believe in His mighty power!
Do you believe that the devil is stronger and can win by destroying
your marriage and your family? You need to believe and know that your
God can rebuild, restore and reconcile your marriage. Put all your
hope into your Lord Jesus Christ.

"Being confident of this that he who began a good work in you
will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
Philippians 1:6

"You are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long."
Psalm 25:5

"Those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land." Psalm 37:9

"I have put my hope in your word." Psalm 119:74

"For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope
at all. Who hopes for what he already has? But if we hope for
what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently." Romans 8:24-25

I pray that any and all your hopelessness is leaving you right now,
in the name of Jesus. When you start reading and studying the Word of
God, it will strengthen you body, soul and spirit.

"For everything that was written in the past was written to teach
us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the
Scriptures we might have hope." Romans 15:4

Is your marriage hopeless? No, not when you have your Lord God on your
team! Believe in His mighty divine power and His love for your family!

"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what
we do not see." Hebrews 11:1
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Just remember that Gods timing is not always as quick as we want it but it is perfect timing.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Thanks Cajunky for thinking of me, I hope it isn't 22 years I have to wait! But however long, the Lord will come through.

I just want to share something with you, and then I also have a prayer request.

On Saturday I sang at a Gospel Jamboree, I always share in testimony and song, what the Lord has promised and what He is doing in my life. After I sang another fellow got up to sing, he called his wife up on stage, and said he had something to share with me, he proceeded in tears to tell how his wife prayed for him for 8 years, and that they have a restored marriage! AMEN!
I was really blessed, I got to speak to her afterward, and she shared some more with me, it was really neat because not only was I encouraged, but two others from Covenant Keepers were there as well, both have been waiting as long as I have.
It's amazing how the Lord sets things up eh?
(that's a Cnd. word,lol)

Anyway, my prayer request is for my H, his name is Bruce. I don't know why, but last night, I found myself weeping uncontrollably over him.
I found myself missing him like when he first left. After this length of time I find myself complacent, and haven't missed him to that degree since the first year or so. It was like it was yesterday...It was really weird, I went to my bible and the first page it opened up on was Ezekiel 11, as I read, the same promise that is in Ezekiel 36:26(the first promise the Lord gave me in all this) came to me, "I will remove from you your stoney heart, and put a new heart in you." Wow God is good!

Well my prayers are with you all,
God Bless and give you an awesome day!
Love in Christ, SW

Cajunky - SNL and I are going to my lawyers office on Friday, to talk about settlement. Restoration of Marriage is not happening here. Also, I have to have an evaluation of my shoulder done, PT seems to think there is a problem. I failed, and now I will be alone.

Malc,

I know what you mean. I don't think any of us really understands HOW MUCH God forgives us. We must remind ourselves ALL THE TIME of what His forgiveness of our sins cost Him. We will be reminded. We will never be able to forget, when we get to heaven and see the scars of the nails in His hands, feet and the piercing in His side. We will have perfect bodies, but Jesus will forever have those scars. THEN, (and only then, I think) will I really get it. I think about this whenever I think I am understanding forgiveness. You see, forgiveness is not something I want to give to my H "after what he did". Then I think about what *I* have done and asked God to forgive me for, and I realize I really have NO excuse to withhold forgiveness from anyone else, given MY stoney heart!

Willgetthrough,
I just went through the refi- nightmare. H wanted this, as he wanted HIS NAME off everything. He signed the house over to me, just to be OUT of it, and demanded (in Div. settlement papers) that I refinance with him off the note. OK, no prob. It was an adjustable-rate mort. anyway, and had to be converted to fixed rate. Well, it took about 5 months to get it all worked out (bank kept screwing everything up). Somehow, I managed to remain peaceful through it all (Imagine that!!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Not that this was hard. I was watching interest rates dropping more and more everyday, so I was benefitting from the delay!!

Sooooo, finally had a closing date....got there, and the paperwork was STILL screwed up (for the fourth time). We called them right from the meeting room, and the loan officer couldn't answer WHY the papers weren't filled in correctly. So, we all had to leave. They told me it would be another MONTH before it was all fixed. I thanked the Lord. Said, "I don't understand the delay, but THANK YOU, LORD, for being in control of it all."
THE VERY NEXT DAY Title CO. CALLED ME AND HAD THE NEW PAPERS. Well, I was out sick with a stomach flu that day, so went in the next day....the Title agent I had been dealing with saw me and started laughing. Then said to me, "Do you know what a legend you are around here?" ME????!!!! WHAT'DID I do?!?!?!?!

She says, "NO ONE around here has EVER heard of a bank loan officer turning around a loan package in TWENTY-FOUR HOURS." Especially when she heard them say on the speaker-phone that it would take one month to re-do all the paperwork.

Seems they screwed it up, and once they saw it all together and realized that they DIDN"T have my signature where they thought they had it (a lock-in rate of 7.375%), they scrambled to fix it!! I didn't have to get upset, or worried, or threaten, or cuss or fuss at anybody!! PRAISE OUR LORD!!!

I now have a 15-year mortgage at 5.5%, so my house will be paid off when I am ready to retire, so NO HOUSE PAYMENTS after then!!!

ISN'T GOD GOOD!!!??!??!?!?!??!

Fatih4me
So sorry for all your heartache. No, you DID NOT fail. Your M is in shambles. But YOU DID NOT FAIL. We are human. We all make mistakes. Your WH has his own agenda. YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER HIS DECISIONS.

Yes, some of his decisions are spilling over into your life, creating a kind of nightmare. But God is able to take care of all this for you.

As long as we have Jesus we are never truly ALONE.

God Bless,

God is so good, I have felt his presence in my life so often since all of this happened. Many days when I was feeling so low at work that tears would come to my eyes, the Lord sent an angel to help me along. It has been amazing! Just someone telling that I had been very nice and helpful, that I looked nice that day, one lady told me to share my smile with someone who really needed it - things like that out of the blue! Helping to cheer me and remember others. God is so good.
Please pray for my daughter. She is almost 17, her grades have started to slip and the impact of everything is just starting to hit her. She wants desparately to move and get a new start and somehow get a grip on life again. Because of finances and no job yet in the area we want to move to, we can't go anywhere. A long time ago, when this all first began, I asked the Lord to close the doors that needed to be closed and open the doors that needed to be opened. He has closed many doors since then, and life is not at all what I imagined. I wait for the open door. I pray that it could be a true restoration of my marriage to the man I once treasured. The one I feel that God gave me for all time. But it is God's will and not mine that I must wait on.
Thank you Cajunky, for reminding me that God's timing is not ours.

I have a special praise I'd like everyone to lift up.

I was raised a believer, and I was baptised at the age of 15. However, that was for the wrong reason. At that time, I did it to merely get the preacher off my back.

This past weekend, I realized I could no longer fight the fight to win back my family alone. My life had gotten too big for just me. This time I truly went to God and gave Him my life. The feeling of peace I've had since that time has been wonderful!

I just want to lift up a praise to God Himself for not giving up on me.

Thank You Cajunky

Lupolady and Cajunky I have a question for the both of you. Are the both of you still married? or praying for your marriage to be restored?

Question number two, what would you do if your spouse had a outside child from an A, especially when you feel it in your heart this child is not your H. You feel it in your heart deeply this women did this to trap your H, his family feel the same way. What would you do if ow is married now and is pregnant and she claiming this child is your H? I have a lot of pain, a hard heart toward H, OW and child. If this OC is my H, I have the same feelings for this unborn child.

How can God restore this mess. If my H and I reconcile, I don't want to be part of this child life. This child would be a painful reminder of my pain constantly. If second child is my H, I couldn't stomach this I'm filing for a divorce,this would be the only way I can hold my head up. I feel humiliated embarrassed.

These are my feelings. I don't know the lesson in all this pain. I know it's there I'm just so bitter to see it.