Tonight my stbx called me from his mother's house to say that the baby was cranky and blamed me for not giving him a nap or feeding him right. I calmly told him that the baby napped from 1 to 3 p.m. and had a full lunch.

Then my stbx told me that I have to cancel a Dr's appointment that I have had scheduled for three months and he knew about well ahead of time because stbx had appointments himself. He said "you had four appointments last week and now its my turn". I told him that I would take the baby with me and in the future, I would either have to put the baby in day care or take him with me to all appointments. Stbx got mad and told me that according to Florida Law, I would have to check with him first before putting the baby into day care (even when we are divorced) and he doesn't want the baby in day care.

Is it true that I have to check with him? I told my mother about this conversation and she said that I shouldn't have brought up the topic of day care until we were divorced. Our mediation is on Monday. Does it sound like stbx is trying to make me aggitated so he will win? Is this another of his tactics? I don't know how to take this. The baby is my number one priority but I have diabetes and have to see the Doctor to be treated. I know that the baby will be squirming in the Doctor's office. Stbx was so angry and he scared me. I have been crying since his call. He will be home soon and I don't want him to see me like this. I hate him so much!!!

Thanks for listening to me rant. I needed to get this out and any advice would be appreciated

No...there is no such law in the state of florida that you must let him know if you put a baby in day care..

there are even some daycare's that take drop by's
like if you have errands to run, if they have an opening, you can drop them off for the day or for a few hours..it's not much..around here it's about $15 a day..

Just go about your business, maybe call a local church daycare center see if they have an opening for the day you have your appointment..ask what it costs for the day..if they have some take your baby there while you go to the dr. and take a couple hours for yourself after wards..then go pick the baby up..

I can't imagine that there's such a law. I think he's just trying to control and intimidate you.

baby,

I'm sorry you are so upset.

If it helps any he's munipulating you and pushing your buttons. There is no such law. He's so full of crap, you need to wear wading boots around him.

Stop letting him push those buttons.

He sounds so much like my ex but I never bought into my ex's bull.

Is he on drugs? My ex was addicted to prescription drugs and it was making him even less logical.

Take care and good luck,

ANNA

<small>[ January 13, 2003, 06:59 AM: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</small>

He's trying to control you with his only weapon left, your baby. Don't fall for it.
When you deal with him, picture the work SICK across his forehead. And don't buy into his taunting. God Bless you today at mediation.
I have my first psychological evaluation today too.
PS. It will look bad for him if he cancels the baby's doctor's appt.

B2L,

Document this. I cannot stress enough, document this. An appt for Diabetes check is a very important appt. He is trying to control you. You need to get this divorce overwith. Don't rush it though to get him out of your life. Make sure you get the best deal you can out of it