I don't want to fully leave here until you are feeling better publicly!

I am very sorry fo jumping to conclusions and I believe you when you say nothing was going on on your end. I think you were innocently supporting him without realizing the depths of his SA.

Catch on the other hand never denied if you read his response to me in the wedding ring thread (just told me I shouldn't be reading threads that aren't directed to me).

Things in Catch's posts to you (and others, but mostly in the threads between the two of you) ring loudly of his old SA ways.

Like I said before, I'm moving to a site that specifically targets help for those hurt and betrayed by a SA. I hope that we can continue corresponding in email.

Again,. I am truly sorry for you being dragged in by my words... I don't know how else to rectify this... please let me know if you have any ideas.

~ Free ~
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I thank you for understanding that my only motivation was to help him and K...., you know that I mentioned to you immedialtey privately his addiction. I still hope that at some point your relationship will work out. I can see why you had concerns and I can certainly see how it could cause great pain especially with Catch's past involvement with woman on the internet. I hope at least one thing positive comes out of this situation......I hope Catch sees that this kind of communication with any woman even in a faith based forum is still verry painful to you, that at this point if his goal is to transform himself into the person he knows he should be....than he must realize that seeking help and support must be kept verry open and verry public with no hint on his part of even getting close to the line, let alone crossing over it. He has to show you that he has changed and Catch, I am sorry if I encouraged you in any way to post "overly friendly" to me. I was just expressing concern and care for your situation, hoping that you and f2bm could somehow find your way back to each other....if I encourage you in any way, I am sorry. That wasnt my purpose for posting to you...only posting to you to give you insight on how it feels when your spouse betrays you to hopefully help you see the pain and realize that it will take time, allot of time if f2bm is ever to open her heart to you again...trying to let you see this through her eyes...all the pain and realize you cant just make it go away, wake up one morning and it's gone.....you have to work through it and yes it is verry tuff....lots of WS cant handle working through it...cant handle what BS feels, the anger, resentment, all of it but you have to be strong and go through it only to be stronger, healthier at the end of it....again, I only wish the best for both of you....do what you both know is best for you......take care and I pray you both come out of this healthier. f4u

<small>[ January 12, 2003, 09:14 AM: Message edited by: faith4us ]</small>

Thank you for the reply, f4u!!

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