My wife had mentioned a couple of months ago that we need marriage counseling. I told her I would go but as usual left everything up to her. She know states that she loves me but is not in love with me.I asked again about counseling and she said she is not sure it may be to late. She is 50/50 now. I have read thru the basic concepts. How do I get her to marriage counseling? I do not want to lose her and will do what ever it takes. I feel that after reading the basic concepts that Dr. Harley's method would be very beneficial. I have printed this information. I wrote a letter and have the information from marriage builders web page. Should I give this information to her? Should I look for a counselor in my area that uses this method and set up an appointment? I have already set up an appointment to work on the issues that she has brought to my attention. Where do I go from here?

Hi there. Welcome. My suggestion would be for you to look for a counselor in your area that participates in Harley's methods and set up an appointment for yourself. Invite your wife's participation but if she declines, you still go so that you can learn more about Plan A and yourself, in becoming the husband your wife desires. <P>If she asks, I would give her bits of information, i.e. perhaps the web site address, perhaps asking her if she would be willing to fill out the emotional needs quetionaire, but otherwise refrain from "teaching" her. You work on you and in the end she benefits...<P>Good luck.

Thank You. I have already contacted various people and have someone sending me a questioneer. I have not found anyone that exclusively utilizes Dr. Harley's methods. The facility wants me to bring Dr. Harleys information and ask my wife to fill out the questioneer they send. I have to fill out the questioneer and send in then they will schedule my appointment. Without cancellations it could be three to four weeks. Would this be to long to wait?

You know, at the top of this page is a link for counseling. My understanding is that the telephone counseling is great from those here who have tried it. I think if you call them too, they might have a resource list for someone in your area as well. Might be worth the phone call.

furmrob:<P>I've used the MarriageBuilder's phone counseling extensively with Steve Harley (Dr. Harley's son). I started about three years ago, and was dealing with Steve pretty intensively for 6 months or so while I fought through my wife's affair. My wife has recently been counseling with Jenn Harley (Dr. Harley's daughter). They're both terrific counselors. The phone counseling is convenient, and it sounds as though you have the kind of attitude that would help you quickly get results.<P>Give the MB office a call (888-639-1639). They should be able to schedule an appointment for you. If you prefer office counseling, you can give them your hometown, and they have a database with counselors who use Dr. Harley's materials. As Sue says, it's certainly worth the call.