Haven't posted here lately, things have improved 10 fold but the jelousy thing keeps creeping back in. On new years my H and I went to a party. I got dressed up and I looked really good, everybody gave me alot of compliments. As soon as my H saw me, he said wow, that outfit. Right then I thought he is going to get jelous tonight, but I wanted to look good and it was new years and I wanted to dress up.He ended up drinking alot and I made sure not to dance with alot of other people, in fact I just danced with him and the girls as I didn't want to deal with any jelousy crap. He ended up leaving me there and I got a ride home with a friend, and when I got home he wouldn't even let me touch him, he even had the nerve to say when I asked what was wrong that I was being a whore! I couldn't believe it, we had company staying with us so I just dismissed it as him being a drunken idiot and just went to sleep. The next night I finally got it out of him why he was so pissed off, It was new years and we hugged and kissed all our friends around, our one friend (my husbands good buddy) who jokes around alot said something perverted, which I knew was a total joke , I replied sarcastacly back, my H says to me I overheard a conversation at new years that really pissed me off. He started to question me, I don't even remember what his our friend exactly said - thats how significant it was to me- he got all mad and said I don't need friends like that (this is a guy that he does everything with, talks to everyday sees almost everyday) so I told him to say something to him if it bothers him so much. <BR>The thing is I am so tired of not being trusted! I have stayed with him through all the crap and he should realize that I am not going to cheat on him! If I was to cheat on him, those kind of remarks from somebody else would only turn me off. Usually his angry reaction would make me cry for days, well this time I'm not shedding one tear! I have had it, I am so angry with him right now that i want to tell him if he can't handle me going out and dressing up and having fun (with him!) to leave! The thing that really ticks me off is when he has been drunk he has said the same type of comments to friends of ours, but not once did I get upset, I knew it was a joke.Yet he is getting mad at me and our friend for doing the same thing. <BR>I don't know if anybody has any advice but I just needed to vent to somebody.

Hi, I dont know how long you have been married, but I use to be in your shoes when my husband and I first marriad at the age of 18. I had been a wild one in my past, and loved to dress sexy, well he changed all that. There was so much jealosy, I was as fed up as you are. I changed my ways and became another version of Laura Ingalls. It was boring but safe, if I was not attracting attention or interacting with anyone everything was safe and he was happy. well about 4 years ago all that changed again, now he wants me to feel good about myself and look attractive if that makes me happy. Its 12 years later,and I think during the Laura Ingalls period I built up trust, and he matured. I'm not saying turn into Laura Ingalls, I'm just saying I can relate well to your story. I hope thing turn out the best for you. Diane1