I overheard my stbx on the phone the other night. He was telling someone (obviously a girl) that he missed her and couldn't wait to see her again and ended the call with "Love Ya!". I only heard him because he has a loud voice and I could hear him through the bedroom door.

When I confronted him about what I heard he said that she was just a friend and said "there isn't anyone else and there may never be anyone else". He then added "if you tell anyone about this conversation (meaning computer friends, family, friends, etc.) I will be very angry. Later on that night, he came up to me saying that he wanted to remain friends with me. I told him that I was still very hurt about this whole thing and it would take time for me to become friendly with him again. I really hate him right now.

I did find in the garbage a couple of weeks ago, a torn up phone bill. I didn't understand why he ripped it up so I put the pieces back together and found at least 20 calls to Raleigh, North Carolina to the same number.

Our divorce will be final on Wednesday when I as the Petitioner go before the judge. Should I bring this up to my Attorney?

Does it sound like there is another woman in his life?

It must be very hard to live in the same house with someone you are divorcing. Are you or he moving soon?
I would say that at this point, accusing him of having another woman would only alienate him; whether it's true or not. Concentrate on being the best you that you can be.....as he sees you moving on with your own life and not basing your happiness/unhappiness on him; he may realize what he lost. You can't MAKE him love you, and accusations certainly won't help. If you are this close to divorce, it might be best to move on for now and remember.....remarriage is always a possibility down the road.

I agree totally. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of thinking you care one way or another.
It is awful to live under the same roof when you are divorcing. Same thing happened to me. In fact, i was divorced for 2 weeks, before i moved out. Was buying a house and waiting on my closing date!! Glad that is all behind me, it was a miserable existance!!

B2L,

I agree with the others. The only reason he does not want you telling anyone is because he does not want to look like a JERK. Ask yourself, do you really want to stoop down to his level? You are really better than this and him.

Let him have his girlfriend, she will find out in time what a gem he is.

I agree Sue, definately let her find out what a "prize" she has received. I am waiting for the day my ex's new woman figures him out <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />