My, how the warmth and radiation emit from match.com...have used other mediums of making acquaintances and moreso friends through single parent groups. However, I have found GREATER success not only meeting some wonderful people
but have found someone who fit my match.com profile "needs" very well...been on 2 dates w/ same lady and mutually we agree that a wonderful friendship is developing...

I share this because I witnessed in another thread suggestions about "where" to find dates. My encouragement for the inquiring mind was "single groups"...when I returned to the thread to view other options, I noticed match.com pervaded!! Had to give it a shot.

For those who are READYf for their next move or have been dating matchless folks and have not found match.com, as yet, do not despair...don't hesitate! For a few $$$ and answering several personal profile questions (about self and the person you are seeking,also allows for pics), you're on your way to striking a match...the system correlates your profile with profiles of opp. sex members (if that's your choice <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) and AS a member you can make contact via a confidential email service devised by match.com.

All the while you share pleasantries and get to know one another you remain as confidential as you wish or as in my case you can get together as quickly as possible!! It is not AT ALL an escort type service or an elctronic meat market! In fact, the women I have met are very classy,well educated, Christian and very attractive (aspects of my "ideal" mate).

Best Wishes for ALL who are ready!

Godspeed!
S

No offense, but that website has enabled more than a few affairs (some of them posting here).

It's really not appropriate to post advertising for other websites, especially a dating website here.

For what it's worth... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Sean

Phyxius-

No offense taken, thank you for your honesty!

I appreciate your input, however if I could draw your attention to the fact that I qualified, even in the subject line with the word "READY"...the intent was to squeeze out those who ARE having A's, and not at all intended to aggravate a situation that many WS's are already too familar with...I for one was one of them at one time!

Furthermore, this forum is for "divorced" MBer's and so I took the liberty to share it with THEM!

Again, no offense taken. If the moderators (based upon MB posting policy) elect to censor it then that's fine.

This is not the first time that particular site has been brought up, either! I'll just assume you read selectively, then! <<Comment made at rolling eyes!

S

found match.com just a couple of weeks ago and I foind it to be fun and healing. For not much money, I figured at the very least it will give me over a month of entertainment. Less than I would pay for a month of movies.

And then, I thought it would get me back in practice with flirting and self esteem as my disatrous 26 year marrige left me rusty and devastated. On those 2 counts alone it was worth it for me.

I didnt expect to find anyone....but Im shocked, things are looking up in that area too. I have been "corresponding" with a man for about a week, Ihave weeded most of the others out after just a few emails, but this man and I have really hit it off. He immediately gave me home and work phone #s and addresses so I could see he was genuine, and he hasnt pressured me for mine. Of course I am still being cautious, but Im about to take it to the phone level. Maybe.....Im terrified but I feel I need to do this. At the rate our friendship has developed I have to see if he's as genuine in person as he is in our conversations

And yes, we all have triggers. And I know for some, on-line services were they way they started, but affairs happen in all kinds of situations. If you want to explore this area you really need to be cautious to the max. check out the person, read into everything they say. ask alot of q's to see if its always the same story, but then, as in any relationship, someone you meet at work may not be telling you the truth either.

Just my 2cents.

I can't get my email to send. Although we have discussed match and yahoo personals on this site. I believe this is different. This is advertising.

Would someone inform Magnolia are moderator.

ANNA

Just my 2 cents...I appreciated the information given on this site, from one divorced/divorcing person to another.

While I know this is M BUILDERS, and we all hope to restore our M with the grace and help of God, it helps to be aware of what is "out there".

Sometimes, out of loneliness and fear, people make mistakes and rush to something that may not be right for them. I believe this post was just to help make folks aware and make an informed decision on an option.

Like I said, just my 2 cents, for what it's worth.

<small>[ February 10, 2003, 08:12 AM: Message edited by: blair ]</small>

Shakespeare,
I have found GREATER success not only meeting some wonderful people
but have found someone who fit my match.com profile "needs" very well...been on 2 dates w/ same lady and mutually we agree that a wonderful friendship is developing...
Aren't you still married?

blair - how did you meet your XH?

Didn't turn out to be a very good way, huh?

CA-
Thank you for your inquiry as it shows you care!

I should have prefaced this thread with an update of my situation...seeing that I didn't pursue or desire dv, I minimized the finality of my M by doing, saying, and sharing with no one! Dv was final Feb. 20...I have to admit, however, that for as long as I have been focused on healing, I missed terribly the companionship of a woman...although I have a friend whom with I've been on "dates" with...initially I thought there may be a long road to this one, but found we are strictly platonic. And that's fine by me.

I may be pressing, but have found a woman who I enjoy spending time with...to everything there's a season! One season has ended and another begins in the life of S.

In error I typed Feb 20 as I looked at the calendar...in fact it was Jan 20.

<small>[ February 06, 2003, 09:02 AM: Message edited by: Shakespeare ]</small>

I was very blessed. We were college sweethearts -- together for 24 years. It just doesn't get any better than that.

After our younger son died, when he was 10 years old, we went through enormous pain, and we each struggled with our grief in our own way.

There was a lot of anger involved and I pushed him away. He felt very rejected and hurt.

Love wasn't the issue then or now. But, regaining trust and the courage to open our hearts to each other again is the challenge.

As I said, it is in God's hands and timing now. Thank you for your kind interest.

<small>[ February 06, 2003, 08:55 AM: Message edited by: blair ]</small>