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Joined: Jan 2003
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My wife of 16 years has been talking divorce the last few years, 2 weeks ago she filed a restraining order against me, for abuse that has accumulated over the marriage, although for the last year she has been very distant and their has not been any physical contact. In the last 2 weeks she has taken my 2 kids ( i was a stay at home dad for 9 years ), gotten me kicked out of our home, put me basically living out of my car and a motel with no money. She told me many times that she just wanted out of our relationship, the only support she has gotten is reasons to leave the marriage not reasons to heal the marriage, for the last 7 years we have not had time off together, so I guess this was an inevitable situation to be in? I haven't had any contact with my kids for 2 weeks ( last time I saw them I was taking them to school) can't have any contact with my wife. Is all hope lost? It sure feels that way.
Robert
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RobertC, From your prior posts, you've learned that we don't know enough about your story to comment. If she has an RO, there's a reason. If you haven't seen your kids, there's a reason, and if there isn't a good reason, your lawyer should be resolving this issue. Don't expect sympathy without putting yourself out there. You need help right now. This board isn't therapy, it's more of a support group. Get individual therapy to deal with the crisis in which you currently find yourself. But still read the MB concepts on this board, it can explain alot. Good Luck, and god bless your family.
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Robert,
Start working on you right now. If you fall apart that is not going to help your kids.
Continue getting counseling, work on your anger and work on you as a person. Learn from reading everything on here and listen to your counselor.
You may not be able to see your kids today or tomorrow, but your chances will be greater if you start making progress with who you are as a person.
Take care and I wish you luck,
ANNA
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