Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

Right now we are I am doing "Experiencing God Day by Day" and Lupolady is doing "Power of a Praying Wife" for the ladies. You can use this as your prayer or have your own or combine them.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e,Angelia,FeelingAllAlone,broken_joe,dopey,awake,truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide,GODBLESSU

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home),WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery),Againstthewind(Got job), Free ( Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting(neice is o.k.)

Love in Christ
Cajunky

<small>[ February 13, 2003, 02:39 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

I do have a praise that I want to share. The two gentlemen who I got to talk to last week at the christian coffee shop came to church sunday and I got to talk with them again and I sat with one of them. The one gentleman who was having a real tough time and I prayed with last week hugged me again and told me how he appreciated me for what I have done for him. I told him God just put me in that particular place for that particular reason. I am calling both of them tonite and inviting them back to church with me.

The head of our singles dept. talked to me the other day and told me he has a new vision for something new and he wanted to talk to me about it. He wouldn't tell me on the phone but we are meeting Monday and we are going to talk about it. He said he would want me to really pray about it to see if it is something I would want to take on.
When I decided to trust God, he decided he was going to use me in some really big ways. I am so excited about the things that are happening to me in this aspect of my life. When I look at how God has blessed me with the things he has intrusted me with I am just overwhelmed.

He has allowed me to head up a group to start a mission closet at church(a place where people come off street and get goods they need i.e., diapers,food,soap, etc). I am the group coordinator for the whole singles dept.(this is a huge dept. in our church). Me and the Singles Dept. Head are going to conduct leader training classes for the leaders in the singles dept. every weds nite. I have been put on the heart again of the Singles Dept. head to do this new thing that we will talk about monday.

Isn't it funny how God uses us when we are obedient and faithful. One year ago I wasn't good enough to spit on but now God is using me in some really cool ways.

Love in Christ
cajunky

In doing my bible study yesterday I came across chapters in Jeremiah that proves that God can and wants to restore our marriages. Read Jeremiah (chapters) 30 &33 and you will see just how God wants to do this.

I also was in Books-a-Million last nite and I came across an awesome book on prayer. It is call "E. M. Bounds bokk on Prayer". It told all about prayer and the awesome power it has. I am going to buy it next paycheck. I was so impressed with it.

I'm off to play racquetball then work out with my son. He joined the track team this week and we are going to start getting him in shape.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ February 08, 2003, 10:31 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Please add me to your prayer list. I feel I have been very blessed in my life, & have always felt I shouldn&#8217;t ask for more when there is so much suffering around me. But I now know that god does what me to ask for more blessing so I am asking that you also included me in your prayers.

I have been in plan B now for 6 months & court hearing was to be Feb 13, WH lawyer didn&#8217;t have all paper work done, so it is now postponed until March. WH had gall bladder surgery & OW was there. I sent a flower & balloon from the kids, but I was hurt because no one from WH family called to tell me how the surgery went. I knew he would okay though, many prayers. WH wants to know about my family&#8217;s health, but I guess feels that they don&#8217;t have to do the same.

I know god was with me, because friends called the night of his surgery & told me I was late, & to get moving. So I was occupied until late that night. Then I have never done the taxes in 25 years & managed to get through the tax program for my taxes & am working on the kids. I always thought it was a chore from the way wh talked. We have never had the taxes done before the middle of March. I guess I will now go back over & check to see if I did my deductions correctly. Then last night I went out with a friend to a gourmet food party. I am thinking about doing that this summer to keep me occupied & plus it seems like it would be fun.

My lawyer suggested for me to file a settlement agreement. It will be the first thing that I do, with moving toward the dv. I guess it is time if it is truely in god&#8217;s plan.

Trying to not be in stbx&#8217;s triangle.
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His Attitude:

No one wants to be around a person with a bad attitude. Life is hard enough without listening to someone constantly complaining in your ear.

An angry, dour, negative person can get that way for various reasons. He stays that way because of a stubborn will that refuses to recieve God's love. The Bible says we have a choice as to what we will allow into our heart (Psalm 101:4), and whether we will harden it to the love of God or not (Proverbs 28:14). We choose our attitude. We choose to recieve the love of the Lord. We permit an attitude of thankfulness to rise in us.

If your H allows himself to wallow in a constantly bad attitude, it will make a good marriage miserable, and a shaky marriage intolerable. A habit of responding negatively will adversely affect every aspect of his life. Of course, you can't rule over your H's will, but you can pray that his will lines up with God's. Pray that his heart becomes pure, because the Bible promises a person who has a pure heart will see God (Matthew 5:8), and have a cheerful countenance (Proverbs 15:13). Pray for his heart to be filled with praise, thanksgiving, love, and joy, because "a good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things" (Matthew 12:35). Even if there are no major changes immediately he is certain to be softened by your prayers. And that, at least, can give you a better attitude while you wait for his to improve.
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PRAYER

Lord, fill (H's name) with Your love and peace today. May there be a calmness, serenity and sense of well-being established in him because his life is God-controlled, reather than flesh-controlled. Enable him to walk in his house with a clean and perfect heart before You (Psalm 101:2). Shine the light of Your Spirit upon him and fill him with Your love.

I pray that he will be kind and patient, not selfish or easily provoked. Enable him to bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, and endure all things (I Corin. 13:7). Release him from anger, unrest, anxiety, concerns, inner turmoil, strife, and pressure. May he not be broken in spirit because of sorrow (Proverbs 15:13), but enjoy the continual feast of a merry heart (Proverbs 15:15). Give him a spirit of joy and keep him from growing into a grumpy old man. Help him to be anxious for nothing, but give thanks in all things so he can know the peace that passes all understanding. May he come to the point of saying "I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content" (Phillipians 4:11). I say to (H's name) this day, "The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; the Lord life up His countenance upon you, and give you peace." (Numbers 6:24-26)
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Phillipians 4:6,7
Ezekiel 18:31
Proverbs 25:28

I just wanted to share a praise. Although things have been extremely tight financially since my WH left, God has truly blessed me. The store that I was working at as temporary Christmas help kept me on in January and now in February, and the extra income has been a life-saver!!

I'm sorry to say I still see no indication of desire for any kind of reconciliation from my WH. He is very determined to start his life over again, and wants everything in it to be the same, just without me. He says he truly does not love me anymore at all. I believe he and the OW will be together just as soon as our D is finalized, although that will not be moving quite as quickly as he would like it to. My heart is truly broken in that he sees nothing in almost 29 years worth saving. God continues to give me strength to cope everyday, and for that I am so grateful. Everyday I am learning to let it go a bit more, give it to God and trust Him in this.

The power of prayer is undeniable, it has surrounded me and given me peace when there should be no peace. As difficult as this is, I hold to the knowledge that God is working through this, somehow, someway.

Please add my niece and her husband to the prayer list, Serena & Craig, he is moving out today, satan has a hold of his priorities, and we need to stand in the gap for him. Pray that the Lord will speak loud and clear to C's heart. That he will recognize that this is the devil at work. Pray for the Lord to sustain S, that she will be able to get through this in prayer. Also her babysitter has quit, as her husband has left her also. both of these ladies wish to have their marriages restored. Please stand in the gap for them. I can't remember the babaysitters name, I think it's Sharon and Kevin. We must pray against the attempts of the devil in destroying marriages, we must pray a hedge of thorns around the WS's that they will not end up in EA/PA.
Thankyou for your prayers! In Christ, SW

<small>[ February 12, 2003, 11:51 AM: Message edited by: Stillwaiting ]</small>

broken x 3:

I have read your post, and I am extremely sorry for your pain.

I understand it, though, and wanted to give you a word of comfort. We were M'd 21 years (he moved out at 20 + 1 month), and Div was finalized at 21 Yrs. and 2 months.

My WH moved out and in w "old friend" whom he had had a "relationship" with before (His words when I found out she was attmepting to contact him 2+ yrs prior to him leaving: "We dated before, it didn't work out....") WTF??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

So I delayed the Div as much as I could, stringing it out for exactly one year. He couldn't get angry at me, cause he DID have a very "incompetent" attorney (his words) - Hmmm, didn't even get it when I told him it was b/c God didn't want us div'd!!

Shortly before Div was finalized, while living w/ow, he bought a kitten (we got a kitten right AFTER we moved in together). Yes, we lived together before M'ing <blush> he told me (over and over again in a convo how much this kitten looks like OUR cat!) so to me, it was almost like he was "recreating" his original life.

Hang on, I'm not trying to pull you down, I'm getting to the good part!!!

OK, so for a full YEAR he was so sure he wanted this Div. (and I was convinced it was b/c he wanted to be with her.)

SO what happened? THE DAY AFTER final papers were signed, he left her and moved 2400 miles away to "help" his dad! OK, so he's not home YET, BUT she didn't end up with him, either!!! He's still running. He's still trying to start his life over.

But a 59 y/o man is going to have a hard time starting OVER and making anything of himself, without HEALTH INSURANCE, without money or bank accounts, without ANYTHING but (barely) the clothes on his back!!

I personally believe the "Prodigal" is now reaping the consequences of his choices....and slopping with the pigs, just NOT ready to suck it up and phone home yet.

One last point: God has also met all my financial needs as well!! Shortly after my H left, I told the Lord, HE was going to have to be my H now, since I no longer had the protection of one.........that very first month, and every single month since then God has supplied with extra $$. Sometimes I just don't know where it comes from....just always have enough!! And the Peace!! such as you have described!!!!!

I have to believe that as much as God is supplying my need as I walk in His will, my WH is SUFFERING need! Remember, God is true to His Word, but works according to our FAITH.

Hope this lifts you a little bit!

God Bless,

Lupolady, your post was just what I needed at the end of a long and very tiring day....thank you so much for taking the time to share with me.

I will NEVER give up the hope that God may restore our marriage, if my H is willing to listen to him. So far, pride and SA have kept him from that.

We had a wonderful guest speaker at church this past Sunday, who mentioned the verse in Romans 8 that says the God works in ALL things for the good of those who love Him. I have given my H over to the Lord and if he comes to truly know and love God, not just lip service, than I can say that all this suffering will be worth it.

I just wish I could see a glimmer of hope...thanks again.

From "Experiencing God Day by Day" by Henry Blackaby.

Effective, Fervent Prayer

Feb.10

James 5 :16 The effective, fervent parayer of a righteous man avails much.

God promises all believers that if we live righteously and pray fervently, our prayers will be effective and produce significant results. How do we treat a promise like this? We might argue, "But I do pray, and nothing happens!" Our problem is that we do not hold ourselves accountable to the Scripture. God's word says that prayer ought to accomplish much. If our prayer life is not accomplishing much, what should you do? If we are praying but seeing no results, should we conclude that this promise is untrue? Should we excuse this Scripture as impractical and unrealistic? Or should we examine ourselves to see if we meet its conditions?

James says that fervent prayer avails much. Could it be that we are not as fervent in out praying as we should be? Fervent prayer means we do not quit easily. Fervent prayer means we purposefully spend sufficient time in intercession. Fervent means we cry out to the Father, sometimes in tears, with our heart and soul. Fervent prayer comes as the Holy Spirit assists us in praying with groaning too deep for words (Rom. 8:26).

According to James, our righteouness will ensure effective prayer. God's standard of righteousness is different from ours, for He looks beyond our actions, even beyond our thoughts, directly to our hearts. How than should we hold ourselves accountable if our prayers are accomplishing little? If nothing happens when we pray, the problem is not with God. The problem is with us, for God's word is absolutely reliable. If we adhere to what God requires, He will lead us to pray for things that align with His purposes, and God will answer our prayers in a mighty way.

Remember to pray for your own marriages as well as everyone elses.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ February 10, 2003, 10:21 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

I have a praise that I would like to share. I had two bills due last week (electric and storage building). They were 90 dollars a piece and I only had enough money in my new budget to pay one of them. ( Storage building was two months past due and they are personal friends and electric had to be paid for heat). I started looking at my electric bill and saw I was still on budget billing(charge you same thing every month) and since neither of us are living in house our bills were suppose to be only 20 dollars if we were not on budget billing. I called and ask to be taken off of budget billing and they told me I had a 155 dollar credit and it would be applied this month. I then had money to pay storage building people. GOD PROVIDED MY EVERY NEED.

Hi cajunky,

Please add my M to your list. My minister H has had two EAs over the last nine years. He shows no regret, remorse, etc. I've kept the secrets to protect my children from the wrath of this small town.

He is not interested in MB principles or in healing the hurt in our M.

I have focused on changing myself and building a strong relationship with God.

The encouragement I've found here is priceless.

The most important thing in all of this is my H's relationship with God. When that is right he'll be ready to begin a relationship with me.

H has not had contact with ow except that she is member of congregation which presents the occasional handshake that I detest.

I'll pray for you guys also.

"No circumstance can thwart the will of God in my life. Absolutely none."--Oswald Chambers

Thanks,
landslide

Please pray for my husband - There will be an intervention done on him Friday, February 14th about 4pm ET.

His good friend just called me & told me about what he & WH's brother have planned. BIL basically told WH to be there, wouldn't tell him what it was about, just show up or don't come back.

Please pray for the wisdom to for them to know what to say, pray that WH be ready to "give it up" and that this be a true rock bottom that he turn his will and his life over to Christ.

God Bless,

D.

broken & lupolady,

Thank you both for sharing, it was exaqctly what I needed to hear right now.

WH's friend said he had heard of the horrendous financial situation that we are in. I agreed, then told him that God was working and so far have provided what I needed even though I didn't think I would have made it this far.

You guys are wonderful instruments of Christ.

God Bless,

D.

Ditto what WGTT said, thanks lupolady, your post was very uplifting. You're allowing your H to follow his own path, loving him and letting him go, and that's wonderful.

Thanks, LetSTry, for your kind words.

I don't feel like I'm doing anytthing (right OR wrong) right now....just sort of floundering. So nice to know there are those out there who are following, and can send encouraging words. This is SOOOOOOO hard to do. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

You guys really are the BEST!!! Thank God for His provision, even tho we may not always recognize it as a good and perfect gift coming from Him.

God Bless,

Fellow prayer-warriors,

OY!! I am tired. I fought and fought and fought with myself about writing this post, and finally I just decided I have to do it.

I do NOT feel like praying this week!! I am just mad and tired and hurt...and I don't think my attitude is very good for "praying"! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Since last week Wednesday, there have been three more incidents of "I will prove you wrong at all cost" raging from my H--that's once every other day. He will scream and yell and slaughter me one day, and then try to act as if everything is fine the next!! AARRGGHH!! Furthermore, he says he loves me and wants to work it out one day (but he won't do a marriage-enhancing class, go to an SA meeting, or do anything to control his rage)--and the next day he uses every weapon and threat he has to hurt me and kill my heart and my love!

Oh, I just don't have anything left to give, and yet he keeps asking for "another chance"!! And then the day after he spends the WHOLE DAY asking me to please try again, he will tell me to my face, "I lied to you just to shut you up, you stupid b*tch!"

I DON'T WANT TO TRY ANYMORE!! I AM TIRED OF TRYING. GOD, IF YOU'RE LISTENING, SEND DOWN A PLAGUE TO CONVINCE HIM TO LET ME GO, OR ELSE SEND DOWN A MIRACLE!!! I'M SICK OF THIS!

Okay...it's not pretty. But, it's the way I really feel and I'm just tired. I want to lay back in the gentle, soothing love of a faithful, stable husband!! I'm not a dog and I'm not a horrible woman...why does it have to be MY husband that goes catting around??

AARRGHH!!! There's darn little hair left to pull out!!!

CJ

Hi everyone, I need prayers right now. As some may know, I've been supporting my H and the OW since he moved out over 2 years ago because we own a business together and I still have to buy him out of it. I found out a couple of weeks ago that the MOW's 5 yo D is living with them.

Today a letter came to the business addressed to him. Most of the time if I can't tell what it is from the envelope, it's really for the business, so I always open them. It was a bill from a collection agency for the condo complex from which he and OW were evicted last summer (they've been evicted from all 5 places they've lived together, so far).

I called the condo company to find out what it was and they were able to talk to me because I was the responsible person on the lease. They said they'd never seen such a mess and had pictures of what they found. They also said they found magazines on the floor about "family sex" that didn't seem legal.

Almost two years ago, I posted somewhere on MB (GQ?) a story I heard from an employee who heard from the MOW's MIL that the MOW's then 3 yo D had been bumping her Barbie and Ken together to demonstrate for her cousins what Mommy and H do. Since it was 3rd hand information, and the grandmother knew and was doing nothing, I decided it was none of my business.

I have tried so hard to stay out of my STBXH's life, but what do I do with this information? The condo co. just threw the magazines away because they feel constrained by confidentiality laws. Not only is there potential sexual abuse, but the horrible mess and the constant fighting (the condo co. called the police several times and kicked them out after less than 2 months because of the fighting).

BTW, I know what city they're in but not where they live.

Hi, Can I join in the Prayer Group?
When is the next date for prayer items?

GODBLESSU....You are added to the list. I will post next weeks thread tonite.