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Social acceptance of WS and OP as a couple
#744473 02/07/03 12:52 PM
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Posted this over in GQII, but I think you all may have more experience with it...

My XH and the OW (who used to be my best friend) are now "out" as a couple. Some in our social group have told XH that they are still his friend but they are not willing to accept her/be friendly with her anymore. However, the majority seem to be just going along with it.

I am having a real problem with people just going along with this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Anybody have any advice/comments on how to deal with this?

Thanks!
Re: Social acceptance of WS and OP as a couple
#744474 02/07/03 04:08 PM
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yep, let it go, not your life or responsibility. . . its their lives now you need to get on with your life now. . .

which means losing the obsession with any legitimacy to their relationship. with no kids, and your divorce final . .. its their life. . .

good luck,

but practice acceptance

and start moving on. .

and learn that the best revenge is to live the good life. . . for this i am sure

wiftty
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Hi Jelly Girl,

Wiffty's got it right.

You have a life and you're in sole charge of it. Enjoy it to the best of your abilities.
I know this really stinks.
My W's family, who used to care so much about me (or so I thought <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ) I never hear from now, they support the OM, go figure.

Anymore infidelity is the norm in my opinion, nobody cares.
Press on and good luck! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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