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I'm not doing to good today, just plain pissed off. I can't believe that I must endure his agonizing over not being with this "OW" yet he didn't seem to have a H**l of a time knowing that he stood the chance of losing me. Why wasn't he thinking of me when he was with her. Why didn't he long for me. I have been the one there for him all of these years. Even up until just before I heard of the affair, it was me who he called from work "just because he needed to talk". It was me that he came to everytime he had a problem that he couldn't figure out. He would run up behind me and hold me and tell me that he loved me more than anything in the world. In fact he still does all these things. She even told me that he said he still loved me. So what is the problem. He still has me. What is so hard about getting over her?<P>Anita<P>------------------<BR>
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Boy am I with you here.. Its a carbon copy of my H.. He has been back home for 3 months and things were going well until he ran into her at work and she started paging him and telling him she missed him... Caused him to go right back into his funk... What do I do??? Do I keep hanging on?
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I know this is incredibly hard for you to understand. Maybe you never will.<P>But AMHARRISON, you're husband is experiencing something akin to drug addiction. He is ADDICTED to this other woman. It sucks. But that's what's driving his actions.<P>Yup. You're pissed. You have every right to be. But try to avoid love-busting. Come to this forum and blow off steam, or whatever. And you're probably going to crack at times and love-bust anyway.... but keep it in the back of your mind anyways!<P>--andy
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Thanks you two I guess I just needed to blow off steam. I do feel better now though. I know that I will stand by him, I always have. It just gets so hard sometimes. Our anniversary is Monday and he wants to take me to the Poconos. I would love to go, but I am not so sure I really feeling like celebrating. It kinda feels like our anniversary doesn't quite have any meaning anymore. I know if I say I won't go he will be very hurt. He is really trying to make me feel better. I'm not sure what to do.<P>------------------<BR>
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Go!! Definitely go! Even if you don't feel like celebrating, it will give the both of you time away from the situation and also some quality time together.<P>--andy
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Anita - <P>I suggest you go too. Maybe this anniversary can be one of rediscovery, getting to know each other again. Always, always, always go for anything that has quality time together. <P>In regards to your first post, yeah it does suck and it is unfair. But, we are made stronger through it and good will come from this. <P>God bless, <P>SHA
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