I have been married for seven years and am now big facing problems. We have two children. I travelled alot with my last job and for the last four years or so have been away more than at home. My wife now feels that she doesnt love me and wonders if she ever did. I was made redundant last summer and she took an evening job in a store to help pay the bills 5 nights a week. I now have a new job also and work a regular 9-5. I dont get to see her much though. I read with facination this web site and belived there may be some hope. However she was furious when I pulled out some of the questionaires and refused to discuss any of the issues on them calling me strange for trying to fix anything with such rubbish. Things have been a little tense since then to say the least, and I just heard on the gossip train she has declared an serious interest in a colleague (I'm not supposed to know) I understand he's not interested but I feel that her heart is now somewhere else. She said that she will hang around this year to see if things improve, but I know she is not holding out any hope and wants to leave the relationship with less guilt next year ... what can I should I do? Please Help !

Sadman,

Welcome to the club, I have the same problem as you do, wife doe not love me etc. She as well believes this is crap. But, you have to work on yourself as well. You have to look and take a honest approach about your life and how you treated her. My guess is that you put the job first and did not spend the time with her and give her the attention and affection she needed. How do I know because that was me. You have a year to work at it. Read everything on this site and follow the advice. I would join the Gym as that will be a great stress reliever. Do not get angry or mean to her, always be nice and affectionate to her. She will hate it for awhile but maybe come around or maybe not. You are the one who has to become a better person. Work on yourself, do not worry about her. I would however inform her of your knowledge. Do it in a respectful manner and tell her that you expect her to refrain from any physical or emotional attachment until she divorces you.

Good luck

Toyman

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