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Well it's over. I found out this weekend that she has become unfaithful. She's been kissing another guy that's often at her work place. He's been calling her on the phone with "PRIVATE" showing up on the Caller ID. She will not admit to actually having intercourse with him, no matter how much I probe her for the truth. At this point I don't know what to believe. She says that they've just "kissed and stuff" and talked on the phone alot. She says this has been only going on for 2 weeks and we have only been separated for 1 week.

Last night she was supposed to be home so we could have a family dinner at her mother's house. She was a few hours late. I knew in my heart that she was spending that time with him. For most of the time we've been separated I've been moaping around crying and asking her to give me one more chance. But as I knew that she was off with this punk while I was watching our children, just burned me up inside. I was very angry by the time she got home. I told her I was sick of whining and acting like a wussy. I let her know I was furious. Then, I noticed the Hickes on her neck..... The only words that came to my lips were "Oh.. God...." as tears rose to my eyes. I can't believe that the woman that I've spent 8 years with could disrespect and hurt me so much to allow visual conformation to appear on body from the making-out with this punk. And still, I swear, If I see this guy, I'm going to smash his face in. I'm not going to hold back. I know that it's her and not him, but anyone who's heart is so cold that he will ruin a family for lust: deserves and [censored]-whooping.

I'm filing for Divorce as soon as possible.

Stay tough, bro, and yeah, that's what I would do to. Time to take out the trash. People change.
Nothing lasts forever. There are tons of women who will be GLAD to have someone like you.

Hickies. Damn, that is so junior highschool.

Let her have her little game and remain steely.
Try not to cry infront of her, because a woman in the fog will view that with utter contempt.

Hang in there. Stay strong. Don't let her see you broken. You will be ok!

Brokensoul,
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I'm dealing with the same thing, although I have never seen physical evidence on WH. I have come across other evidence, however, and it was just as hurtful--especially after the admission of adultery. Please understand, and I know it's hard to do because I still don't follow my own advice, but understand it is not YOU. These unfaithful spouses are so selfish they can't see past their own feelings. I'm finally understanding myself that I'm having to move on, and I'd have NEVER cheated on my H, even though I wasn't happy in our marriage the past 2 years and he treated me badly. I had opportunities, but I NEVER let them go ANYWHERE..not even flirting. So, understand, there are women out there who do know what committment is and you deserve one, if your spouse doesn't hit rock bottom soon and ask for you back. If she doesn't, then it's her loss, not yours. And if she does and you don't want it, then you are well justified.

Just my humble opinion.