Have had the blues about this Valentine's day for a long time.

It would have been my 25th anniversary. (I know you all wonder how I could be so young and this have happened - but, I was only 6 when I married him. No wonder I chose so well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> )

he's happy with wife #2.

Children are with them for the night.

Diplomat is a long, long, long, long, long way away.

It's the first Valentine's Day without a date with someone who loved me-or should have-since I was 18. I really miss that 'girlfriend'date this year-she moved and is getting married.

I could spend it with my mom. Or my cats. But I have the cruds and think I will spend it with my pillow.

Would chocolate help? Does it go well with antibiotics?

Can it cure this killer case of the blues?

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Sorry to hear that not only do you have the "blues", but you have the "cruds" too, so I'd say that even the chocolate is out. But hey, it's okay to buy yourself flowers! And, cats are wonderful, too. Maybe the diplomat is even up for a little phone s**.... and with the "cruds" that might be the best kind anyway.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Yeah, I know. This really stinks. All I hear on the radio and tv is Valentine's day, love, romance, yada, yada, yada.......funny, no one made so much of it LAST year!!

I always told my WH not to buy me roses, they were so expensive this time of year....he always did anyway. Funny I should think of that. Oh well.

You know, maybe next year, if I do move down south, we can do dinner!! Although hopefully the Diplomat will be in town for you instead!
Take care and maybe one glass of wine would be in order...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ((((((((((((cindy))))))))))

never really thought about valentines day, X only gave me flowers on our 1st one together, after that nothing. I always gave H & our son candy. never complain about him not giving me anything, it was just the way he was. Its been a long time since I thought about OW & X, she probaby got the flowers, nice card. Im sure he told her he loved her so much & will be with her for the rest of his life. But its a joke he told me the same thing 18 yrs ago. Today Im taking our son out to eat at tacobell. this year we are starting to make all holidays a family affair together. Just me and my son. Im glad we moved, it made our life a lot easlier.

m-17 1/2 yrs
me-49, x 43
c- 13, 29, 8gd
d-5-02

ow-32
c-3 under 11
d-7-02
m-10 yrs

Well, hows this for irony? My SIL asked me over for dinner to celebrate my MIL birthday tonight. I accepted and then realized Seperated H would be there and we would be spending Vday together, when we havent seen each other since he moved out 2 months ago.

Happy Valentines Day to all here.

Your Most Royal Highness,

First, your priorities as a six year old are: "Is he potty trained?" and "Does he have his own baseball glove?" If both answers are yes, then he is a fine boy! heehee. Things change as we get older, huh?

Second, I know that no one is sitting there with you, holding back your hair while you throw up, but trust me, Princess, you are not alone. In fact, I suspect there are several people there with you today in spirit...thinking of you, loving you and missing you.

Finally, yes, chocolate does help...chocolate ice cream helps more...and double chocolate chunk with chocolate sauce and chocolate whipped cream is almost a cure!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Being alone on Valentine's Day SUCKS, but you know what I decided long ago?? I can CHOOSE to be lonely and blue, or I can CHOOSE to feel something else. Today, I am having Captain Crunch Cereal for breakfast...know why? Because I love Captain Crunch Cereal and today I love me. I'm helping my son make a dinner for his girlfriend (isn't that cute--a teenage boy, cooking??) I'm baking cookies with my daughter. I'm making Chicken Caesar Salad for dinner so I don't "pig out." And then...I shall indulge in CHOCOLATE becaust V-Day, Birthdays, and Anniversaries are meant for chocolate indulgence.

Tomorrow, I'm thinking of going to the Denver Kennel Club dog show (the Westminster Dog Show of the West!). Anyway want to come with me???

CJ

Much like myfamily's post, I haven't really ever liked Valentine's day after the first year or so with WH. (we were married 11 years before separation). He never bought into it, considered it just too commercial. He used to get me a small gift at V-day, NEVER flowers, and sometimes we would go out to eat, but the last 4 or 5 years it was depressing because I knew we wouldn't go anywhere. I had resolved myself into thinking it would always be like that. But I'm renewed. I have a male friend who is insisting that he take me out to eat tonight, and I'm going!!! I feel like a princess. He is making a big deal out of it, alhtough he knows I'm not ready or even able to have a relationship with him yet. (H thinks we will finalize next month). HOwever, my friend knows this and respects my decision to wait on relationship. He just wants me to be treated well. I haven't been treated nicely in a long long time, so it feels very good...

Hope you all have a great Valentine's day. My little boys and I spent celebrated last night by going out to eat and getting them a small gift. They will be at their dad's this weekend. At least I have a small comfort in knowing WH won't be spending this lover's day with OW.....

Beginning to smile again,
Kim

Hi Princess! Sorry to hear you are not doing well today. I do hope you get better real soon. Today is not going that well for me either - my wife is now in Day 2 of Surgery Recovery - and she's still hurtin' a lot. I'm learning how to re-wrap Ace Bandages, use walkers and canes, etc. Perhaps I'll go into the Medical Field heheheee.
To me, Valentine's Day is a day my wife and I do NOT celebrate. What's to celebrate? It was the anniversary of my first Marriage in '81 - which resulted in 19 years of HELL for me. June 5th (the day my Divorce from the 'Wicked Witch Of The North' became final - now THAT'S a day to celebrate! And what about the St. Valentine's Day Massacre that happened sometime during the Middle Ages - nope, don't want to celebrate that either...
Just a few thoughts - "Tomorrow's a NEW Day!" (Scarlett 'O Hara in Gone With The Wind)
Harold

Didn't sleep much last night. Just couldn't do it. I couldn't get comfortable. Everything in the bedroom was wrong. Covers...pjs...you name it.

My d gave me the card she and s had designed on their dad's computer. They loved their small cards and thing of M&Ms. Then off we raced to school and work.

So, when I got to work, there on my desk was a bouquet from the diplomat.

I lived through the day. After work went shopping for gift for d to take to party tomorrow night. Three stores and nothing that moved me. One of the high end toy stores has closed. Not good.

But I got to hang out in a great bookstore and read for several hours. And they had live accoustic music. Violin and guitar. It was wonderful. No one paniced when the lights went out. One of the joys of accoustic music is that you don't need electricity. The musicians just kept on playing. I was, accidentally, sittting in a spot illuminated by an emergency light so I kept on reading.

Now I'm home. I made it through the day just fine. Didn't spend too much energy on what might have been. It had just been hanging over me for a few months. But I survived.

Friends, thanks for being there and for caring.