But not new to the boards in general.

I posted this over at General Questions, but in truth it belongs here. So, if I may, I'd like to repost it here with an addendum.
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I've been here before. I used to be quite active, but I guess I haven't posted on here for a couple years. Don't see many names I recognize, which is good, but I'm back and I guess that can't be good.

Recap: January 8, 2000, I found out that H had an affair with a woman at work. Three more D-days (I don't even remember the dates), each time revealing more about his life. After the third one he went to counseling one time. I made the mistake of posting some of the things he shared here. He had posted here once, but wasn't a regular and I didn't know that he read anything I posted here. Seems he read it all. That's why I have the new name. He went ballistic when he saw that I, who had bent over backwards to remain anonymous and hadn't contacted anyone off the board for just that reason, had posted something about his report of his appointment that worried me. I deleted the post and didn't come back.

Well, it's not as though things became good at that point. He started keeping a negative balance in his Love Bank, and we all know that's trouble. I never came back here and talked about it, but I had an affair. Yeah, stupid, I know. I just wanted someone to say I was good and pretty and all those things I always dreamed a husband would say. When he found out he went ballistic again. Ugly. I didn't have any problems avoiding OM because I didn't want him hurt.

That was about a year ago. Things almost seemed to be getting better. We were actually talking about a second child. (First child is the real reason I didn't walk before.)

Then an old acquaintance called today (today of all days!). She had talked to a friend who had this friend... I don't want to go into details, but it seems like maybe it's all starting over again. No, that's not true. I think it started a while ago. It's just back in full swing.

I'm thinking of hiring a private investigator to get the "smoking gun." Right now all I have is hearsay. Anyone have any experience with a PI?

Thanks for taking the time to read the post. I appreciate being able to dump.
-Just
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Well, it took longer to sink in, but when it did it hit just as hard as ever. With any luck I'll dump some weight before I'm done. (<-JOKE)

I'm thinking I need hard evidence of his current dalliances in what will undoubtedly be a nasty divorce. *sigh* I don't really want a divorce, but I don't want to continue to live the way I have been. So I'm here.

Want to know an ironic date? My first marriage ended in divorce. Date final papers were blessed? February 14.